One of the biggest problems that divorce imposes on children is the sadness of their family breaking up and having to adjust to one parent no longer living in the home. Usually it hurts all the family members, including the children that are very young and do not understand what is happening, but they still feel the loss of one of the parents not being around. Divorce, in any circumstance, rips a child apart limiting time spent with his/her parents, and confusing him/her. In Matthew 19:8-9 it says, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
The divorce can also cause an unhappy environment for the children. The children may not like the person that their mom or dad has chosen to be with. This can cause conflicts between stepparents, parents, and children. Children would also have the mental problem of choosing which parent to live with. This can cause a child to be confused and stressed because of the love the child has for both parents.
The child could also feel a sad disappointed feeling because their parent won’t give them the attention a child should be receiving or a child could just be being neglected all together possibly by the parent just not caring, but I will tell you all about these things in my paragraphs below. First, Physical abuse: where a parent physically hits the child. The child will have unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bones, or black eyes. Also if the child screams and fusses that they don’t want to go or when the time comes to go home. A child could also feel as if any adult that approaches then could be harm to them.
Kids are highly influential especially at a young age. A child who sees a father abusing his mother might grow up and find it acceptable to beat on his own wife and kids, alas the cycle continues. Society also play a very big part in this, we now see and accept divorce and broken families as a new normal. Since many fathers generally are not the major caretakers of their kids after a divorce, bad feeling are formed with the kids. These negative feelings are due to dads not regularly seeing and interacting with their kids.
The behaviors whether verbal or nonverbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, or the enemy to be feared, hated, disrespected and avoided. Hostile parenting deprives children of their right to be loved by, and showing love for both of their parents. It is a severe form of child abuse, which puts the children in fear of their own parent. The child living in such an abusive environment is taught hatred, which will affect them for the rest of their lives. Hostile Parenting destroys a loving relationship between a parent and a child, in a way that affects the child in all aspects of their life.
Sometimes when parents’ divorce, kids may feel guilty and blame their selves for other things the rest of their lives. Physical or Emotional Neglect – When you have memories such as someone hitting you, or telling you that you are not good enough, you may think that and not value yourself ever again. Low Self-Esteem – Most people are insecure. But nowadays almost no one is confident, especially teenagers. Some kids never recover from low self-esteem and think they will never be good enough for anyone or
They know what they want and when they don’t get it, they cry, or scream, or express their emotions in another way. Divorce is a difficult and unpleasant event in life of any person, and children become its victims as well. Of course, they don’t want to lose the possibility of seeing another parent less frequently than another, and thus they express their disappointment in a way usual for them. People start to think that children shouldn’t suffer because of it, and maybe they should try to restore the relationships and so on. But, unfortunately, such tries often end with nothing good and children suffer even more.
Some kids end up blaming their parents and do not want to be a part of the family and feel as though their parents to do accept them anymore. This causes children to misbehave at school and with friends. Many children may leave their homes, start using drugs, steal, and end up in prison. The emotional state of the kids become hurt and unhealthy. Children are also affected by divorce academically.
Despite all the negative effects of bullying, there are even far more serious consequences. People who have been bullied sometimes become so upset, scared, or depressed that they see no worth in themselves and no way out of their torment. There have been countless reports over the past few years of students committing suicide because they were bullied. Meanwhile, there are times when victims see no recourse but to seek revenge by serious acts of violence against the bully and instigators. As a result of bullying, people can lose their ability to love and trust, denying them the chance to experience a quality relationship later in their life.
Most children see smacking as any other kind of hitting and have negative feelings about their parents after being physically disciplined, according to a new report on the smacking of children. So should smacking be banned? Many children’s charities are against smacking children and have had many protests against it. One of the most famous is the NSPCC where there are many celebrity supporters such as Geri Halliwell, Carol Voderman, the Beckhams, Lulu and Elizabeth Hurley. They believe that smacking does not work and just hurts the child both mentally and physically.