The "real you" is a magnificent, unique being with enormous potential and capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others. As your self-esteem grows, this "real you" emerges. You begin to take more risks and not be afraid of failure; you are not as concerned with getting approval of others; your relationships are much more rewarding; you pursue activities that bring you joy and satisfaction; and you will make a positive contribution to the world. Most importantly, high self-esteem brings you peace of mind. When you are alone, you truly appreciate the person you're with-yourself.
The Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar Abstract The Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar is a book that can benefit all of us, even if we feel content with our lives, there is always room for improvement. In the beginning of the book, the author starts off by talking about Perfectionism and how most of us seek it because we believe it is the only way we will gain happiness. He provides several examples of how this can affect us and how we can approach the Optimalistic mind-set by embracing the obstacles that we may face in life and move forward. He explains that perfectionism can affect our relationship with others and ourselves. Towards the end of the chapter he provides strategies and exercises that we can practice and use in order to change our Perfectionism ways.
The effect the event had on my subjective wellbeing has boosted my self-esteem and allowed me an extra income. I was able to buy the things I wanted which gave me the ability to stay on top of the latest trends. Also my first job gave me a sense of satisfaction, achieving one of my long term goals in such a short amount of time left me feeling accomplished. 4. Role the event played in the continued development of personality?
Individuals using Emotional intelligence have an ability to notice, express, understand and adjust their emotional responses to better communicate with others in an easy and fluent manner. Another effect is that emotional intelligence contributes in enhancing the satisfaction of individuals when interacting with others. “People of higher emotional intelligence succeed at communicating their goals, ideas, and intentions in more interesting and assertive manners” (Matthews, Roberts, & Zeidner, 2004 ). A study showed that self-esteem is definitely linked with emotional intelligence (Dong, Aden, Araisa, Armagnac, Cartwright, Domingo, Kemper, & Lamay, 2005). Self-esteem is an individual’s awareness of him/herself and can be a means by which individuals are motivated to take action.
The front of my mask is what people see me as and has words that I received when I did the “slips” assignment. I feel as I try to convey myself as a happy, optimistic person and doing the slips assignment really showed me that I’m mostly successful – words that appeared most frequently were “happy” and “bright” and “cheerful” and I tried to encapsulate all these ideals by making the front of the mask look bright. This has to do with the trait perspective – the idea that my character traits are stable and enduring, yet vary within situations. Though I am generally a happy person, there are times I do feel sad. The words I placed on the top of the head, Recycle, Key Club, and School are placed specifically there because they’re “always on my mind.” These things are obligations for me – I’m the President of the Environmental Club at school, Vice-President of the Key Club, and I work really hard to maintain my grades.
Be truly interested in the other person. Treat him or her as the most important person you'll interact with that day - a VIP, Very Important Person. Smile at them, not just for a brief, dutiful second, but for a magical two or three seconds. When you smile, lean toward the person a little, and think in your mind, "I like you. You are a great individual.
It is vital to you that you enjoy your work; if this is the case, you quickly become a pure workaholic. Your creativity best takes effect when you work independently; but you are very good at motivating others and infecting them with your optimistic nature. Conceptual or advisory activities appeal especially to Groundbreaking Thinkers. It can happen that some people feel somewhat duped by your flexible, spontaneous nature. As a Groundbreaking Thinker, you are one of the extroverted personality types.
Helping others gives me a wonderful sense of satisfaction, an inner pleasure to see how I can help people overcome their conflicts, that good feeling. Your small help could be that small step to something big. Even a smile can turn someones day around. I would say I am often motivated by a feeling of empathy, compassion and understanding, through personal insight. My own, personal experience as a client was a motivating influence: I’d had a very positive experience in which I had a “light bulb” moment, I wondered if I could give something back, to help someone else in the way I was, that would be a blessing.
You like the way that person thinks and speaks, or how they look. Love and infatuation both share feelings between two people and are positive aspects of their life. Both show a sign of passion, which can be helpful in building a relationship. However, I have learned that there are major differences between the two feelings. Love is much stronger and can withstand the testing of times.
Feel good Happiness allows us to experience happiness while we are actually unhappy. Value-based Happiness gives us a sense that our life has meaning. It might even be a spiritual feeling for us. Value-based Happiness makes us feel like we are here for a larger and even more important purpose in life. He says that anytime the 16 basic desires, such as curiosity, acceptance , and honor are satisfied is when value-based Happiness is felt.