Segment One: The Divorce
If this were my client I would explore her feelings more. For example, I noticed that you mentioned several times that you want to be happy, and your husband’s behavior is the cause of the unhappiness you’re expressing today. What would it look like for you to be happy? If your husband’s behavior changes do you see yourself being happy again? I would also ask her if the husband is aware of her decision to divorce. If not maybe this could be an option which both parties are given a chance to hear each other and they can decide as a couple the value of their marriage. I would encourage a second therapy session with the hope of her spouse attending and I would also seek guidance from my supervisor and colleagues. Responding this way will hopefully give the client multiple options so that she can make an informed decision.
My personal values on marriage are that it is between a man and a woman. I believe this based on the biblical mandate found in Genesis 2:23-25. Marriage is a holy covenant that God established and not man. Therefore, the Bible says “What God has joined together let no man separate” (New American Standard Bible, 1995). However I do realize that we live in a broken world but Gods ideal of marriage is an eternal covenant where two people are made as one.
Corey, Corey, & Callanan (2011), suggest that practitioners are to work to decrease client dependency and to empower client to make decisions. Client autonomy as it relates to this case and all cases must be respected. The decision that the client makes must trump my views and values on any given case, but as an competent counselor it is my duty to inform the client at the same time acting in an nonmaleficence way. Every option must be explored as the well-being of the client must be priority. In this situation the counselor fidelity is important in order to help client make their own decisions in a trusting relationship with their therapist.
Segment Two: Doing It My Way...