My grandmother and I had a great relationship where I could tell her anything, we could go shopping or out to eat together. Whenever I got in trouble my grandmother was always there to reprimand me, but also be kind and caring and assure me that she still cared and loved me even though I was in trouble. My mother and I had a total opposite relationship where I always felt anything I did was never enough for her and she never saw the good I would do or appreciate it. As a result I tended to not be around my mother a lot or be able to confide in her at all. I resented her and did not feel like she was a true parent because she was always yelling or correcting me about something I would do wrong.
I have had to cope with my crazy and angry nights and I still do everyday. My family is the most important discourse community that I belong too. Conventions were created throughout this divorce process. Some would not be mentioning family fights with others unless they were extremely close, and not bringing it up around my immediate family because everyone has their own opinion and that would only cause fighting. The most important convention I’ve learned through this is how to rely on my self more and take responsibility to help my mother out as much as possible since there is one less person.
In the beginning of the book, when Dave talks about when the family was once good, he calls his mom, “Mom”. He later on calls her “Mother” when she becomes abusive. He does this because he became distant from her when the abusive started. He didn’t feel safe referring to her as mom anymore because she wasn’t the nurturing mother that she once was. Before the abuse, Mother would’ve done anything for her family.
It was also hard for the girl to feel at ease with her natural parents. After experiencing many family issues, I come to realize that being a father or parent is not the ability to give birth; but good parenting is really the time that one takes to love, care and raising a child. The ability to give birth can make one a dad or mom but it does not make you a parent. I would definitely empathize with the foster family for the grief and suffering this rapture may have caused to their family. I would also empathize with the daughter for being traumatized by this tragedy.
He also felt as if his father was hiding from him but I’d often tell John “your dad can hide from you, but he can’t hide from God.” I felt bad for john at times, but he didn’t have to live as a dwarf his whole life. Although I have both of my parents I sometimes wished that I could have a mother like Johns. She really cared about me yes I know my mother cares about me, but Johns mom goes to our games, she picks us up, and she gets involved in my school life. She even came to my house just to talk my parents into making me go to some stupid academy school. I guess you could say I somewhat had a crush on Mrs. Wheelwright which John was fully aware
Because they were both blood brothers, they decided that was good enough, and ended up living together with Derek’s mother and sister. At the start it was very hard for Derek and Morso. Derek’s mother did not readily accept morso into her home, nor did she treat him as an equal. She essentially neglect Morso and made it so much harder for him to settle in. She was very rude to him and would not even speak to him.
I made mistakes with my parents, who were always there for me, and even made a lot mistakes with the legal system; which resulted in a domino effect of problems concerning Child Protective Services. Despite how painful and difficult the process, I survived, and am able to reflect now on the lessons learned. The major starting point in the rough road I chose can easily be seen first with my parents, for as a teenager I wasn’t an angel by any means. In fact, I was spoiled, rude, arrogant, and a very defiant little brat, talking back to my parents every chance I could. I even cursed at them several times showing my lack of respect.
Resistant Attachment Resistant attachment is the attachment pattern characterizing infants who remain close to the parent and fail to explore before separation, then are usually distressed when the parent leaves. When the parent returns the infant combines clinginess with angry, resistive behavior. This theory of resistant attachment really interested me because I have witnessed it plenty of times with my boyfriend’s nephew, Noah, and his sister-in-law, Elizavette. When first reading this chapter I thought they had a secure attachment but once I dug a little deeper and we discussed it in class I realized that it was not secure at all. Noah as an infant was very attached to his mother, Elizavette.
I strived to succeed, so when I didn’t do my best I would get very upset with myself and try harder until I was the best. I hate the feeling of failure especially when I knew that I had tried my very hardest. My parents always told me try your hardest or don’t try at all, so anytime I lost at something I felt like I was letting them down. Like I said before the best feeling in the world is when your parents show pride in you, well how awesome that feels is coinciding with how horrible it feels when they are upset with me. Through the years I have learned what I am good at and what I don’t excel in.
I don’t want to have kids when I am too old, I want to be able to watch them get married and have kids. I see my mother when she is with my niece and becoming a grandparent was one of the most joyful days of her life, I would love to experience that. I have had ups and downs through-out my life, but going through those obstacles has made me the sturdy person I am today. Going through my parent’s divorce, being in a long distance relationship and living in a rotary schedule between both parents has left me with emotional stiffness that I would by no means take