Sometimes when parents’ divorce, kids may feel guilty and blame their selves for other things the rest of their lives. Physical or Emotional Neglect – When you have memories such as someone hitting you, or telling you that you are not good enough, you may think that and not value yourself ever again. Low Self-Esteem – Most people are insecure. But nowadays almost no one is confident, especially teenagers. Some kids never recover from low self-esteem and think they will never be good enough for anyone or
3.3 TRANSITIONS Transitions may affect children and young people’s behaviour and development in different ways. They may become quiet and withdrawn, feel anxious, demonstrate uncharacteristic behaviour and or become attention seeking. Short and long term affects of a break up on children: Most commonly, children of separated couples will experience greater poverty. Their social and emotional development is very likely to be affected, as well as a child’s psychological and physical health. Children of separated couples may also perform worse at school and have poorer future employment prospects.
In addition, survivor's may have trouble sleeping because of the trauma, anxiety or may directly be related to the experience they had as a child; children may be sexually abused in their own beds. Many survivors were betrayed by the very people they are dependent upon (family, teachers etc.) who cared for them, who insisted they loved them even while abusing them; learning to trust can be extremely difficult under these circumstances. Therefore, this is often the most difficult emotion for an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse to get in touch with. For many survivors, these emotions are such a basic part of their day-to-day life that they don’t realist that there are alternatives.
Bullying is an interaction in which a dominant individual repeatedly exhibit aggressive behavior intended to cause distress to less dominant individual .Bullying is a physical act i.e., hitting and kicking, verbal attack i.e., name calling and threats, a psychological maneuver and many more. Bully problems are a major source of worry for children .At one time or another, most children will have to deal with this problem. Losses of self esteem, no longer wanting to go to school, emotional and physical harm are just a few of the results of the peer
The family can be put under a lot of stress and people’s emotions get minimized as the pain of what they live in is denied. The family support system breaks down and children lose sense of what is ‘normal’. As the adults around them struggle to regulate their emotions, the child learns abnormal ways to deal with the chaos around them and struggle to make sense of what is happening around them. The family’s routine begins to revolve around the addict and the children end up fending for themselves. Children in an environment of addiction often find themselves taking on the roles of the adults and take on the stress of dealing with the addiction.
They too are afraid of punishment and abandonment or the possibility of being replaced. They also tend to suffer academically and also suffer in relationships at school. Anger, anxiety, uneasiness, and physical symptoms are other ways in which they react. The older the children, the more they set up defense mechanisms against relationships as a result of their parents' divorce. In adolescence it is another situation teenagers have to deal with.
Many teens report that the overbearing expectations to be “the perfect child” lead to unnecessary stress and depression. Teens may experience stress due to family pressures and problems. Tensions between parents, a recent divorce, alcoholism or drug abuse in the family, and parents who are not involved with their children’s lives may all cause stress for teens. Economic hardships may result from any of the previously listed family tensions and poverty may leave teens feeling financially helpless. Divorce may strain parent-child relationships, and may leave teens feeling abandoned.
An unexplained change in the type of friends your child associates with would indicate that your child is vulnerable to new influences that may not be positive. How can parents who spend far less time with their children than do their peers, have an influence on their teens? Parents need to set clear expectations for behavior, establish rules about communicating where and with whom their teenagers are spending their time, and should pre-set consequences for lying about activities or where they are going. By communicating your expectations, your adolescent cannot claim they “did not know” you would be upset. One of the most difficult issues can be when a teen decides to hang out with the “wrong crowd”.
When these incidents occur, children don’t really understand what is happening nor recognizing what is real and what is not real. They may actually believe that their own wishes caused the person to go away. It is much more a major trauma to young children when they lose someone who cares for them a lot which therefore takes time and care to overcome the trauma. Most young children are not like adults that express their feelings at a time of loss, usually the child becomes anxious, having mental and social difficulties, whiny, clingy, withdrawn, subdued and regressive behaviours. There are developmental considerations like beginnings of concrete reasoning and magical thinking.
During this transition, the teen will become bored with the old games of a child and start to experiment with different things. Teen will often try to test the limitations that are set by parents and often their behavior starts to change. The adolescents are beginning to change inside and out and often have trouble with the transition. The emotional changes will often have them being moody and short tempered. During these years, the teen often pushes the limits to see just how