Marriage is, without dispute, one of the most significant forms of personal relationships. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines marriage first as the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law and second the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage (2012). For a long time, marriage has been a foundation of social structure in societies around the world. Through this union, individuals can publicly express their love and commitment to each other. Also, this action recognizes legitimacy as a couple, publicly recognizing society’s approbation of the personal hopes, desires and aspirations that represent loving, committed, conjugal relationships.
BELONGING The concept of Belonging is a multi-layered concept, particularly in the novel "The Namesake" by Jhumpa Lahiri, the news article "Burqas and Fries" by Erika Hayasaki and the play "Romeo and Juliet" by William Shakespeare. A person's sense of belonging is determined by the relationships they share with themselves and other people. Whether it's family, friends or society in general, humans have a desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves. The ideology that one must belong to oneself before they can belong anywhere else, justifies this complexity of someone's Identity and the Relationships they share. These two concepts both encapsulate the notion of Belonging being a multi-layered concept and are fostered into each of the composer's texts coherently.
Through the form of a verse novel he supports the idea that all humans seek a sense of belonging, and that without it our lives have little meaning. Yet Herrick also subverts some conventional understandings of belonging by showing that belonging can come from strange and unexpected situations, and is not just limited to one place or one person. Herrick conveys all of this through the different perspectives of Billy, Old Bill and Caitlin; employing a range of verse and narrative techniques to show their gradual sense of
‘The passing of time, the passing of mine’ by Natalie Isakov, and ‘A sense of Belonging’ by Sylvia Mortoza explore Belonging through concepts such as Belonging to a person, Belonging to place, and belonging throughout time. In Isakov’s text, the composer is shown to belong to a person, firstly through the inclusive language associated with the involved parties, such as “we were together”, and possessive language implemented by the author in “you were taken from me, and part of me died”; the inclusive and possessive language alludes to a sense of belonging between the two parties. The metaphor of light representing the author’s love denotes his importance in her life; and the isolation brought by the absence of light in the latter stages of the text removes the belonging that the composer once felt, instilling a sense of isolation. Similarly, in ‘A sense of belonging’, Mortoza’s is shown to belong to the Queen. The belonging in this piece is alluded to through the romanticized exaggeration of the Queen’s features, showing the authors adoration.
Cherlin describes individualized marriage as having the goal of a self-fulfilling status. In other words, it is about being in a relationship for one’s own individual needs and benefits. Our final transition of marriage includes today's symbolic values as well as what marriage has offered us individually. Marriages of today allow individuals to experience more forms of marriage, such as it being socially acceptable living with their partner(s). Along with the many options of marriage, the roles of husbands and wives are more flexible and negotiable, unlike before where this would have been
I gave myself to him: Explain how Dickinson used the extended metaphor of a business transaction to explore the concept of belonging in this poem. Throughout this poem, Dickinson uses the language of a business transaction to create a feeling of detachment and dispassion for belonging in the context of a relationship. While a man-woman relationship as described in the poem is generally thought of as warm, personal and inviting, Dickinson deliberately uses words and phrases such as ‘contract’, ‘debt’ and ‘mutual risk’ to subvert this expectation. In the first line of the second stanza, the speaker expresses fear that “the Wealth might disappoint’, that is to say that she feels a sense of pressure from the other party to live up to a standard to belong in the relationship, similar to the way a customer holds a businessman to a certain standard when buying a product. The constant reference to this mercenary language makes it clear that the speaker feels that belonging is not a positive, warm and joyous experience for her, but rather, a cold and clinical one, that leaves her ‘insolvent’.
Nikah must be publicly announced as it is a confirmation of male and female togetherness in the Umma. A male must provide dowry before Nikah. The Qur'an stresses the importance of human sexuality in promoting committed and compassionate relationships. "They are your garments and ye are their garments" Surah 2:187. Marriage connects a couple to Allah, as they are two bodies and one soul, through which they worship Allah.
Durkheim suggests that the highly skilled members of society have the most important jobs therefore attaining a higher pay and more rewards. As a result of this a conflict arises that is ‘resolved’ by socialisation via; the family, media and or religion. In modern day the recession causes more stress within this institution therefore faulting the socialisation process, causing more problems and also creating disharmony. Talcott Parsons agrees with Durkheim on how the jobs are ranked in society and how the most functional jobs have the highest rewards. Parsons also believes that the family socialises these qualities in the form of norms and values.
The Holy Temple In the poem The Holy Temple the author uses literary devices and imagery to get his message across. In the poem the author, in contrast to the title, is talking about a woman or women and how he longs for a relationship with one. He speaks on how beautiful a woman is, how soft a woman is, how precious a woman is, and how delicately created a women is. It seems to me that in the poem the author idolizes every inch of a woman and this is why he refers to her body as well as titles the poem The Holy Temple. As I stated in the first paragraph, the author uses many different literary devices to make his message clear.
Through interactions with the surrounding world and those in it, and individuals perceptions of belonging evolve in favour of their personal happiness. The notion of belonging or not belonging to create this sense of personal happiness is complex, where an individual’s innate need to belong, their confusion and their curiosity influence their decision to isolate or include themselves. This is made in Emily Dickinson’s anthology The selected Poems of Emily Dickinson, and is apparent in her poems “This is my Letter to the World,” “What mystery pervades a Well,” and “I had been hungry all these years” An individual’s innate need to belong may force them to strive for acknowledgement. Dickinson’s initial dilemma with belonging is portrayed in her poem “This is my letter to the world,” where she understands her rejection, yet yearns to belong to society. Demonstration of Dickinson’s fruitless attempts to belong is evident in her Highly personal “Letter to the World” that she emphasises “never wrote” back.