Other disadvantages from this situation can be that sometimes a single parent can’t afford expensive holidays which would make the child feel left out when they are talking about events when after coming back from their holidays and are asked to write or tell about what happened during the school holidays. The child will lose their self confidence and moral will be low if all the factors above do occur, they may also get jealous of other children who could be in a better situation because of the financial stability brought by having both the parents being together. Example 2: Children moving form Reception to Juniors most parents and children get worried about how they will fit into new environments, with children older then their own, not knowing how and what is required of them to which can cause both parent and child to feel insecure by not sleeping well and having nightmares, not eating food, and as the time gets closer the child will start to be more clingy towards the parent and vice versa for the parent
Overall, being taken out of a stressful household is an easier transition that being a yanked out of a peaceful one. The University of New Hampshire(extension.unh.edu.family/documents.divorce.pdf) found that age and gender play a large role in how each child reacts to having divorced parents. When an infant's parents get divorced it doesn't understand what is going on but feels the low energy level of its parents. The baby will most likely lose its appetite and spit up more. Preschool children often believe that they caused the divorce.
He will usually settle down if a friendly adult is there to comfort him. • When parents pick him up from childcare, he is usually very happy to see them. • He may have a hard time leaving childcare, though. This can be confusing if the child was upset when the parents left at the beginning of the day. It does not mean that the child is not happy to see the parents.
Children are affected by the divorce more if the parents have custody hearings or move away from each other. The decision to terminate an unhappy marriage through obtaining a divorce is almost never an easy decision. It is usually reached only after other options and alternatives have been carefully considered and then rejected as non-viable
• A review of the barriers to participation faced by carers and ways they can be overcome. Barriers to participation for carers in partnerships with parents generally run smoothly, but sometimes there can be a barrier in the way a parent may not have time and feel guilty about this. If this is the case this situation needs to be treated sensitively and make a parents session to suit their time. This parent session could be in child care setting so making it easier to be involved. Another method for parents who ma lack time can be communication via e-mails providing consent and security issues have been met.
Secularisation is also involved in why there are changing patterns of marriage due to churches being in favour of marriage, but as their influence declines, people feel freer to choose not to marry – according to the 2001 Cenus, 3% of young people with no religion were married, compared to up to 17% of those with a religion. High divorce rates mean divorcees are able to re-marry, however some churches do not marry divorcees. People are also now marrying later as people stay in education till later and are likely to cohabit first. In addition, Alan and Crow agree with the idea that there have been changes in the position of women, they are now better educated, which makes them less dependent on men financially, which makes women have greater freedom not to marry or to end a marriage. In support, feminists see divorce as desirable as it shows that women are breaking free from the oppression of the patriarchal nuclear family.
• Parental illness- if the parent becomes too ill to look and care for the child then the child may either be optionally put into care or a care order put in place to remove the child. Due to the fact that the parent has not got a record of abusive behaviour towards the child, it will allow the parent to have access to their child and regular visits. Also the child may be put in temporary respite and able to return home once the parent is stable. • Parental incapacity- this means the breakdown of a family. For example if a father leaves the mother unexpectedly and the mother cannot cope looking after the child on her own then the child will be optionally put in care or a care order put in place.
Barriers come in many forms, such as when key persons are doing observations and planning. The parents may lack in confidence to give any suggestions or feel that their contribution isn’t worth making at all; they may also not want to get involved in this. However practitioner should let the parents of the child take charge on the suggestion making, instead of the practitioners taking charge. This allows the parents to feel valued and respect being given such an important role, building the parents confidence as their suggestions have be taken into
Parents are often show frustration at not being there and being able to help their children in addition to not getting to see them as much as the teachers do. Parents may be reluctant to express their concerns because of cultural beliefs related to the authoritative position of the teacher. Parents may also be unsure of how to express their concerns to the teachers. Research shows that parents provide a passionate feeling that is highly personalized and comes with a history and a future. During a power struggle between a parent and a child, you will see emotions seldom seen by two people.
How do we look for that "something else"? We know that it is a mistake to compare children of divorced parents with children of continuously-married parents without taking into account differences between divorcing families and continuously married families PRIOR to the marital disruption. Parents who are more likely to divorce may also be more likely to be impoverished, to live in disadvantaged neighborhoods, to be less educated, to have been raised in divorced families themselves, or to have more children than average. These factors may impair a child's well-being whether the parents stay together or not, but also be more likely to produce a marital disruption. To test the effect of pre-existing family characteristics versus the effect of divorce itself, prior studies have used statistical analysis to "control" for the differences we can see between divorced and continuously-married families prior to the disruption.