Sherman and Adelaide Haas in “Man to Man, Woman to Woman”, husbands and wives often have communication issues. That is why men and women talk about different topics. Base on some questions asked to different couple, men and women can rarely talk about the same topics like television, work and movies, but women will react more emotional than men. Then making fun of the other person opinion could easy lead to argument or fights. Men enjoy talking to other man because they don’t have to watch what they are saying and because freedom, playfulness and camaraderie.
Women regard conversion as the cornerstone of friendship. Some men really do not like listen because of being a listener make them feel one down. When a women tell men that they are not listening and they say they are listening. The men are right. The girls and women faced each other directly and their eyes anchored on each other face.
Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns and support for each other. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. Tannen explains “women are often told they apologizes too much. The reason they’re told to stop doing that is that to many men, apologizing seems synonymous with putting oneself down”(para 4).
Women are likely to expect much more than just help in house chores or career development from men. They consider small discussions with their partners as signs of intimacy, care and responsiveness. However, men have different mechanics of conversation and due to the hierarchical system in which they work; they do not like listening as that makes them feel like an inferior. Therefore, they consider this demand of females unreasonable. Most of the conversation patterns of men and women differ because of their social interaction as children.
As the objective of impartiality between men and women is ever closer we are also losing our attentiveness of essential differences. In many circles of culture, politically correct judgment is obliterating essential dialogue as well as our understanding of the similarities and differences between men and women. The mental picture of equality between men and women has lessened the
Metamessages Men and women often receive messages in an erroneous way due to misunderstandings caused by metamessages. A metamessage is a message concealed in a message that a woman usually has a better understanding of. In Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers, by Deborah Tannen, demonstrates how women and men have different communication skills than one another. Women are seen to “have a relatively greater need for involvement, and men a greater need for independence,” causing the opposite sex to retrieve a message incorrectly from what was meant to be said (200). The article clarifies how genders react to metamessages as well as how they can retrieve them and apply them to their daily conversations.
The article talks about the gender role between men and women role during intimacy and how affectionate they can become. Some men loves attention and so does women too. On the other hand, although they both love this attention, they need to give each other breathing space so that they can bond deeper with each other to not finding flaws of a relationship. Being an attentive person and to someone needs at all time will be required, if it persist. But, what will happen when one day that attention cannot be given because one decide to do something differently, then the other person will feel like they are not being loved or wanted anymore.
Whilst the system impacts adversely on both men and women, the men do have more choices whereas the women are relatively powerless. The men do maintain control over the land, church, country and legal system, which meant women could only access justice through men and so their rights are subjugated to men’s needs. The head of the house
Sammy knew this, but didn’t mind too much because of his infatuation with the change in norm. These girls were different and stood out. Mr. Lengel did not like this and decided that he was going to do something about it. Throughout Mr. Lengel’s interaction with the girls, he says, “This isn’t the beach,” on multiple occasions in order to create an emphasis on his main point. Due to this repetitiveness, it is discovered that Mr. Lengel is most likely a firm boss that appreciates when things are done properly.
You get rushed and preoccupied, and you stop taking the perspective of the other person, precisely because the two of you are so close.” I feel he is more than right on this subject. I know from personal experience, it is much easier to just assume I know the answer of what my husband wants and vice versa. Except in the end we really do not know what the other is trying to communicate. It makes a relationship even harder when the other is always starting to argue with the other person in the relationship. I know that I have a lot of things on my