IMPACT OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN Impact of Divorce on Children Rebbecca Jackson Student #25417435 Prof. Kristi Starnes PSYC 210-B16 Abstract The decision to divorce carries a great burden upon the hearts of the adults involved. The focus on the separation of two adults can seemingly take center stage as the process is worked through. Often overlooked is the impact it has upon the smallest sufferers of the decision- the children. Many factors including age and resiliency can explain why not all children experience divorce in the same way. The effects of divorce can vary greatly depending on numerous factors including age and resiliency factors.
Then we will see how divorce affects children spiritually. The traditional lifestyle of living with both parents and being a family is almost rare in today’s society. Divorce is a very tragic situation especially when it involves children. Children undergo different changes in their lives as a result to divorce. Sometimes the effects of divorce can be short or long term consequences.
Factors such as length of the marriage, why the break down, substance abuse, repeat cycles from family of origin, whether there are children, among many other factors, can all influence the issues and how they impact people embroiled in separation or divorce. Due to the required length of the paper, I concentrated on Parents and Children’s issues, however I will look at other areas affected today during my presentation. PARENTS I think that Ann Mitchell in her book Coping with Separation and Divorce sums it up quite well - “Unbelievably, at one fell swoop, you have lost your spouse, your status, your hopes, the framework of your daily life and – possibly – your home and/or your children. You have lost companionship and maybe you have lost in-laws and friends” (Mitchell, 86:14) in my sleep i dreamed you called. you said you were moving back with your old lover.
I always knew my parents were going to be divorced someday, because all they did was argued. People say that you should stay together for the sake of the children, but is that what the children want. Children grow up in a household with parents who don’t get along or affected for the rest of their lives. * Divorce can be difficult, especially for children who have friends with parents that are still married. It often leaves them feeling ashamed of your family.
50% of Marriages in the United States end in divorce. Most people believe that sexual misconducting is the leading cause of divorce, you've got it all wrong. Believe it or not communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Who is the number one person effected by marriage divorce, the children. They range from many age but all are equally as effected.
My father used to tell me and my sisters stories about how he used to teach kids for free in Haiti because those children’s parents were unable to afford to send them to school. As I grew older and watched the years go by, I wanted to go back to college and finish so I can earn my degree, but there was always some complication that would arise and I would have to put college on the back-burner. A year ago, I decided to ignore the numerous obstacles that a single-working mother faces and returned to school. I used to believe that my father had lost his mind when he would want me and my sisters to read books and practice math problems during our summer vacation instead of spending the entire summer by the swimming pool. However, as I get older, the more I seem to be turning into my crazed-father that I used to complain about with my sisters.
As parents we encourage our children to become independent and when they do, we feel lost and normally do not really want to let go. We miss instructing them, their dependency and being a guiding force. And if anyone felt the way I did when our son left home, “what do I do now?” It took me longer to recover than it did with our daughter and honestly I have not fully recuperated from the separation. But I did recognize that it is a normal reaction to be sad when your child leaves home and even go into their room and sit there for a while, just do not allow depression to set in. This is also a happy moment, now you have the opportunity to see the revealing of what you have taught your child come to fruition.
Divorce has many effects on children and however the parents adjust to the divorce relates to how the child will adjust. Divorce can change negative effects on the development of a child. It can affect A child’s feelings, behaviors, emotions, communication skills, and health (Lewis, 1999) The effects can be long lasting into their adulthood. It is important that parents communicate and help their children on how to cope with a divorce. Divorce affects each member of the family which children experience it differently.
Having parental responsibility also means assuming all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority that a parent of a child has by law. In that case, a divorce is the last thing needed in this kind of relationships. Most divorcing parents are very concerned about their children’s reactions to their separation and divorce. They want to know, “Will my child grow up to be healthy and happy?” but that’s not the point. The point is to make sure that children are happy all the time and not asking ourselves questions.
Usually, we will feel sad all the time. 6) The last, it is called acceptance phase and happens after the third month. Finally, we will accept the reality and forget our sadness. 7) Conclusion : In conclusion, we need three months or more to forget our ex-partner and move on to other people. Breakup in a Relationship Letting go of a bad relationship can be complicated.