Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
There seems to be a misconception when it comes to older foster children, some of them do have emotional problems but when we look around us, with open eyes we will notice that many people have some type of emotional problem, they just are not labeled. Being moved from house to house is a very upsetting thing. If the child and foster parent cannot communicate it can cause distrust and placement issues (Crum, 2010, p. 1par 3). Many of the kids come from a neglected or abused home life so stability would be relief. The longer one is in foster care the harder it is to adjust unless you are in one home.
There are basically two results of a divorce for the couple; the divorce is either mutual, or one-sided. However, for a child, divorce is a drastic change and traumatic event to experience; it can produce all kinds of psychological and physical results. Although 50% of marriages do not end in divorce, like many people believe, there are still enough to cause an enormous effect on the younger generations in this country Involvement can alienate a child from one or both parents; the effect of this is detrimental to their development. Psychologists have studied these effects for years; according to Craig A. Everett’s Children of Divorce, “children may exhibit higher levels of dependent, disobedient, aggressive, demanding, unaffectionate and whining behaviors” after a divorce. One of the most harmful effects of divorce on children is the stress that accompanies it.
Substance abuse is a difficult situation for anyone to deal with, but the problem is compacted when children are involved. Parents who are substance abusers may knowingly or unknowingly be causing a number of problems for their child. Emotional effects that children of substance abusive parents may experience are to blame themselves for their parent’s overall drug or alcohol abuse, thinking that they are not good enough and force their parents to use drugs or alcohol. There is a higher occurrence of depression, anxiety, eating disorders and suicide attempts among children growing up with substance abusive parents compared to children that grow up with parents who do not abuse substances. The child might develop stress-related health problems like gastrointestinal disorders, headaches, migraines, or asthma, causing them to miss
The Impact of Divorce on Children Abstract The goal of this study is to determine the psychological effects divorce has on children. Most of our society, through the media, believes that divorce has both a short-term and long-term impact on children. Children of divorce parent have a strained relationship with their parents and other nuclear family members, which can lead to unusual stress that interferes with their normal development. Through this study, I will analyze scientific research on the negative impact divorce has on children. With the research, hopefully it can be determined if adverse effects can mitigate with interventions and a positive relationship with both parents being maintained.
Many parents seemed to have forgotten the impact that domestic violence has on a child. A big impact is that of being exposed to domestic violence at an early age, also the effect that domestic observation has on an individual and his character. Character flaws can impact a child into his adolescent years and also affect his decision making skills in adult years. I have seen the result of a child who has been a part of a domestic violence family and home. The mind frame which an adolescent is permanently damaged with is not a healthy one.
This is more harmful to the child’s wellbeing on many different levels. Children experience the same feelings associated with divorce that adults do, they feel a loss and grief for the parent that is no longer there on a daily basis. The attachment that they had to the parent prior to the divorce has been forever changed. Some research shows that the quality of relationship between parent and child deteriorates and that the effects last until adulthood (Bouchard & Doucet, 2011). More recently laws have begun to change due to the research that shows children benefit from having both parents involved in their parenting.
Children whose parents divorce will be more likely to be isolated and antisocial than sociable and integrate. If there is no contact with one of the parents, the child misses out on that parent’s knowledge and skills. This is a big loss to the child especially if the only parent in their life has a serious lack in parental
Overall, being taken out of a stressful household is an easier transition that being a yanked out of a peaceful one. The University of New Hampshire(extension.unh.edu.family/documents.divorce.pdf) found that age and gender play a large role in how each child reacts to having divorced parents. When an infant's parents get divorced it doesn't understand what is going on but feels the low energy level of its parents. The baby will most likely lose its appetite and spit up more. Preschool children often believe that they caused the divorce.
Negative aspects and attributes of divorce, such as discussions on the parental control, cruel scenes between parents and negligent attitude towards the child, as proven by the empirical research data, influence future behavioral patterns of this child and create dysfunctional attitude and relationships in his or her own family. The statistics shows that twenty one percent of the respondents in one of the research on the functional differences in the families of individuals, brought up by one of the divorced parents,