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Counselling/ counselling ideas may help to cope with the challenges of ‘change’ ‘The more I am willing to be myself in all this complexity of life […] the more I am willing to understand and accept the realities in myself and in the other person […]” Rogers (1961). In order to tackle changes in a client’s life, it is important for the counsellor themselves to be self-aware and have an understanding of others’ values, beliefs and attitudes although they may conflict with their own. The counsellor is there to help the client adapt to these changes, helping clients to push out old information and take in new- this however is also an aspect of change which the counsellor has to help the client pursue whilst keeping ethical and professional boundaries. Changes are accompanied by strong emotions, both negative and positive and counselling is able to support the transition from one state to another. When looking at coping with change it is not possible to ignore some of the events which change our development, life events which cause significant change are called transitions (Jeffery, J in Aldridge, S & Rigby, S 2004).
The goals that were talked about in earlier sessions are beginning to be embraced by the client, who is questioning the counsellor more, in an effort to start the changes. Words like “so when are we goal setting please?” And “I really feel you’re helping me see the light” are also affirming statements. Along with this, the client’s appearance may have changed, as may their facial expressions. The positive-ness with which they are starting the sessions also are a dead giveaway. The client may also come to the sessions having drawn up their own plans for progressing.
The second stage is the Dyadic phase when the troubled partner confronts their partner and tries to correct these problems; this stage can involve the assistance of a marriage counsellor to help resolve any issues contributing to this dissolution. In the Social stage the decision is made by one or both partners to leave the relationship, both partners are likely to discuss the relationship openly with their peers. They will each have their own version of any key events or points that contribute to the problems with the relationship and will gain assistance and advice from others they have spoken to. The final stage in Duck’s phase model is the Grave Dressing phase, in this stage each of them go through self-justification when they form their own version of events and the reason behind the breakup. This stage is especially important for when they intend to move on to new relationship as they protect their own egos to prepare themselves for a new partner.
(Bitter, Long, Young, 2010) Reframing is when a problem is shown in a different way and from different perspectives. “Through reframing, it becomes possible to grasp the underlying family structure that is contributing to an individual’s problem.” (Bitter, Long, Young, 2010) Reframing seems to be a technique that will work will with the Quest family. The family will be able to look at their problems in different ways as well as different perspective. They will be able to see the underlying problem and one person will not be blamed for the problem because the problem is a family
Abstract This paper will explore certain things that couples deal with while in couples counseling that will help counseling more effective for couples. The goals of couples counseling, dealing with anger, theories of couples counseling and ethical issues in couples counseling will be discussed in this paper. This paper will also help determine if the efforts that each couple but into counseling will be effective enough that they will be able to resolve whatever issues that they may have had in the past or the future. Couples therapy or couple’s counseling is a useful way to help couples who are experiencing difficulties such as repetitive arguments, feelings of distance or emptiness in the relationship, pervasive feelings of anger, resentment and or dissatisfaction or lack of interest in affection or in a physical relationship with one another. The Goals of couples counseling should be established mostly by the couples themselves.
McLeod also suggests that counselling skills can be used in a range of self help groups such as sliming groups or Alcohics Anonymous or in life coaching – although this focuses on the promotion of positive effectiveness or achievement. Users of counselling skills often have dual responsibilities both to the recipient of their skills and the organisation that they are operating within. (Stokes in Aldridge and Rigby). This can be a cause of conflict. Counsellors can avoid this conflict by starting the counselling relationship with a contract that ensures confidentiality and helps create a safe environment that supports a client by setting down guidelines for a working/ professional relationship that includes boundaries, conduct, timekeeping.
One cause could be having to endure family problems, if child is exposed to fight or other issues they are going to think about that and they are going to learn to understand that more. Another family effect could be a parent's divorce or death this would force the person to change and fill different roles other then the “child” role. Besides negative contributers there can be positive one's, like Atticus to Scout. A parent or a friend can help and encourage a child towards higher develop. No mater what pushes the child or what time era the kid lives in he or she will mature.
Students that may need assistance due to personal hardship may speak to their guidance counselor to try to assess their situation; any students going through personal issues such as illness would be able to obtain or retain their license with proper documentation, and student facing financial hardship are encourage to work after
This is the real test of love for most couples. This is when you should really take notice of what kind of problems you had before. Don't expect your partner to feel guilty. If the marriage was meant to work it will work. If you have MS your children have probably already figured out that something is wrong before you tell them.