If reality is inevitable, and there is nothing one can do to stop it, change it, alter it, or make it happen, one may want to distance them self or even ignore the possibilities of inevitable events. This only hurts people in the long run because not only did the inevitable happen, but the reality of the inevitable and the occurrence can cause people even more doom and burthen rather than them preparing and adapting and accepting inevitable events. There is an idea of shame when one thinks of “burthen….forever on a man’s shoulder.” Shame
As humans we are frequently held back by our fears, unwilling to risk losing for the chance to win. In ‘Look Both Ways,’ Sarah Watt demonstrates that a fear of death can prevent people from living fully, just as the blackness of grief and suffering can also cripple the human spirit. As we are faced with fear and hardships, we must each learn to cope and in becoming resilient, life is somehow more complete. Fear of death can play a major role in our life choices, however in order to experience life in its entirety, we must face our fears and develop resilience for the future. Fear can overtake the human mind, preventing us from acting as we would most desire.
Explain. It reminds me that even in the most extreme situations people are going to do what they are wired to do. If they are kind, they will be kind. If they are selfish, they will be selfish. I have little if any power to create in others what I would want to see there.
Stoicism Stoicism is the philosophy that states one has free will, but there are aspects in which one can and cannot control. Although Stoics believe in fate, there are “appropriate actions, in addition to just controlling our attitudes.” (AOW, 197) Stoics also emphasized on acceptance of such fate and detachment as well as self-discipline. They believed Stoicism was a way of life and not just an interesting type of knowledge. (SEP, p. 2) In order to achieve happiness, one must detach themselves from personal relationships and motives and also reject emotion as much as possible. (AOW, 209) As Epictetus says in his Manual, everything has a price and the price of happiness is personal detachment from the outside world.
Because of this, other defenses are also used to keep these unacceptable feelings from consciousness. For example, when someone learns of the sudden, unexpected death of a loved one, at first he or she may not be able to accept the reality of this loss. The initial denial protects that person from the emotional shock and intense grief that often accompanies news of death. Chronic or terminal illnesses also encourage denial. People with such illnesses may think, "It's not so bad; I'll get over it," and refuse to make any lifestyle changes.
Then you got a win-win where you have both people in the relationship that want to move on for the right reason and not have any grudges against each other and forgive one another. Forgiveness is a big part of a conflict I think if you stay thinking about what’s going on you never
We are encouraged to focus on all the bad things that may happen especially from our news and media telling us how things are not as good as they used to be. Another reason people fear change because it is the unknown. Lack of knowledge creates fear. People become comfortable with the status quo. So, even when something changes for the better, it takes energy to accept it.
These ways should most likely get them to leave. The great thing about using these things is that they are not illegle and you can enjoy the laughter while doing it. If that dont get them to leave no need to break out the poisin yet. There are still some tricks that we have hidden up our sleeves.
Whatever you love, weather it be a friend, a spouse, or a family member, will one day leave you. Anything you love will one day cause you to suffer because you one day will loose what you love. In Siddartha you must overcome suffering before you can find enlightenment, so one must love in order to suffer in order to become strong enough to over come the suffering and reach enlightenment. The theme of love however, goes very unnoticed throughout most of the book, because of Siddarthas belief that in order to find enlightenment you must travel on your own, and teach youself through experiances. It's not till the end of the book when Kamala and Siddarthas son come into the picture and he finally suffers by losing them both.
As such, people wake up afraid to expect the best and prepare for the worse. Do you see that this is still the Law of Attraction working? By THINKING that the worse will happen, people are bringing about problems to themselves. So kick the habit! Do expect the best and the best will happen to you.