Damaged Vows Research Paper

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Damaged Vows: Effects of Unresolved Conflict on Marital Satisfaction and Longevity Liberty University Tiffany M. Small Professor Frank Hain March 5, 2012 Abstract No two people are alike. In fact husbands and wives are completely. They think differently, love differently, and express themselves differently. With all of these differences, it is only natural for conflict to arise. Conflict is not always a bad thing. It is not a bad thing as long as there is resolution. When Thomas Edison created the light bulb there was a conflict of darkness. But what if Mr. Edison had never created the light bulb? If he had not then the world would still be in the dark. Let’s just “sweep it under the rug”. “As long as we have love that…show more content…
One of the benefits of anger is that it motivates individuals to make positive changes in their lives and the world around them. There are two types of anger; righteous and unrighteous. Righteous anger hates all injustices and evil practices. The anger one feels when witnessing the abuse of a child would be described as righteous. The opposite, unrighteous anger can be a dangerous weapon, if it goes unchecked. Eruption of hateful words, abusive language, and violence are examples of unrighteous anger. The damaging effects of this anger can change the course of one’s entire life by altering their heart and mind. Let’s look at Lydia for example. Lydia is a single mother who works two jobs to provide for her children. Lydia was not always a single mother, but her last marriage ended after she endured years of abuse. Lydia vowed that she would not let another man hurt her; therefore she vowed never to remarry. But to Lydia’s surprise here comes Jack. Jack is a Christian man, who wants nothing more than to have a wife. After finishing up his first year’s residency at the local hospital; he asked God for a wife. Upon meeting Lydia, Jack knew she was the one. Reluctant to give Jack a chance, Lydia was wooed by his great character and imperishable Christian values. The wedding was beautiful, the kids loved Jack, and he loved them; everything was just what he prayed for. All seemed well with Jack and Lydia, that was until the day two of Lydia’s “friends” showed up. After six months of marital bliss, Lydia behavior becomes erratic. She becomes uncomfortable with Jack’s long hours at the hospital. Lydia expressed to Jack that she wants him home more, however Jack informed her that we was unable to cut back. Instead of being supportive, Lydia became infuriated and accused Jack of not loving her. Taken back by her accusation, Jack tries to reassure her of his affections. Lydia’s outburst was just one of many; Jack
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