An Analysis of the Themes that Illustrate the Unsuccessful Parent-Child Relationship in “Write me Sometime” When relationships fail or they are on the path to failure, people attempt to restore them through old habits. This can happen in any type of relationship, but there seems to be more effort when the unsuccessful relationship is between a parent and their child. There is never one specific reason for this failure, but there are usually a variety of problems that build up over time. In Taien Ng-Chan’s short story “Write Me Sometime”, a girl is having trouble connecting with her father. As an adult, she is reminiscing about her childhood lunch dates with her father, which she enjoyed.
She did not think she would be the one to get pregnant at such a young age. She did not think she was going to be just another statistic. Natasha simply did not think. Many teens, like Natasha, are sexually active and do not realize the consequences they are exposing themselves to. Many teens girls end up pregnant and it not only has a negative or positive impact on them, but also on their families.
The narrator is not omniscient so we don’t know what the other characters thoughts are. He first says that “you never know how girls mind works (do you really think it’s a mind in there or just a little buzz like a be in a glass jar”, he’s saying with that metaphor that girls don’t have a mind and that he thinks that what they’re doing is useless. All this thoughts are at first, because he’ll change his point of view during the story. He's speculating on the mental processes of girls. Condescending
(277). Pearl not knowing any better and being a child, she always brings up the letter worn on Hester's bosom. Hester knows she is a curious child and wants to know the meaning of the letter A, but it creates tension between them. Hester is not ready to tell young Pearl about the meaning of the letter, and lies to her by saying "I wear it for the sake of the gold-thread" (277.) By not telling Pearl she gets even more curious and determined to ask Hester about the letter A.
44). The governess is so focused on the past and trying to find out answers that she forgets the real reason why she is at Bly: to be a good caretaker to the kids. This causes the downfall of not her, but the children. The children’s downfall represents the outcome of letting one thing control her life, making her blind to everything going on around her. In the end, it wasn’t the governess who suffered.
Many teenage females are not willing to discuss this topic with their parents and will not feel any more at ease talking to a man. A better sense of information would come from a female facilitator because she would be able to relate where a man cannot. He would need to not give his own personal opinions as this might influence participants towards other position or opinion in regards to the issues at hand (Morgan,
The author may be trying to point out that because the narrator is beginning to feel like she is being over powered by everyone else’s opinions of a girl, she did not want to visually witness the slaying of a strong female. Another point that is made by the author is what the definition of a girl was to her before and what it is now. “The word girl had formally seemed to me innocent and unburden, like the word child; now it appeared that it was no such thing.” (225) Another factor that the author points out
As adolescents start to gain independence, understand relationships that work and do not work make it hard for parents to let them grow, but as the adolescent sees it, parents are trying to keep them from self-expression and trying to figure out how they fit into the world around them (Bass, 2009). Media does not help adolescents acknowledge success since the media portrays physical appearance as perfection and possessions as riches causing complicated issues among adolescents (Bass, 2009). As an adult we have all gone through angry days as a teen, but the one thing the author Lyman Bass (2009) explains in the article “Adolescent Anger Management” there are signs that are beyond usual. These signs are when adolescents become defiant by the request of others, is mean to parents and other adults who hold some authority. Another signs are adolescents who are loners, depressed, trouble with expressing emotions, have few friends, and certain events trigger them into violent behaviors.
It is important that such treatment options are discussed in order for service users to be able to make informed choices (NICE, 2004). Sally explained that she was slightly apprehensive about treatment, as still finds it hard to admit she has a problem as it has been a way of life for so long. The NICE guidelines state that many people with anorexia nervosa find it hard to acknowledge they have a problem and are ambivalent about change. Onyett (1992) quoted “very few people seek help for mental health problems with enthusiasm” therefore it is important for professionals working alongside such clients to build an empathetic and supportive relationship, with the patient and if necessary family members (NICE, 2004), in Sally’s case she felt it would be beneficial to have couples therapy with her boyfriend, to overcome some difficulties they are currently
They have a better way of dealing with certain situations. Their parents have taught them this. If a teenager is in care, this can be different because they haven’t been taught to deal with their emotions very well; there has been no one there to help them get through so they still act younger than they are. Emotionally, nature tells us that almost every teenager will have a rise in sexual hormones causing emotions to rocket and this cannot be help or affected by anything that may have happened to them. Socially, their friends are different.