Mainly, most people in this situation cannot enjoy their life and they cannot take risky steps that would make their life better because they are always afraid of what people might have to say about them. Lack of assertiveness may be another cause of lack of confidence. People who cannot express their opinions and needs are often ignored and not much respected. People need to learn how to be assertive, so other people can understand their needs and respect them. Lack of assertiveness has some effect on people who suffer from it.
I Believe in Being Yourself If you think back to your childhood I’m sure an adult has told you to “be yourself” or “don’t worry about what others think,” but I feel as if that’s not always easy. Speaking from personal experience, I know that its hard to be yourself because of what others might think. I used to hide behind a mask of shame and put up a front that wasn’t at all the real me. I would always repel the people who cared about me out of fear they would find out my secret. In doing this, I didn’t spend a lot of time with my friends, and I was very distant from my family.
He commented, “I’m not the person I thought I would turn out to be” and “I’m disappointed in myself”. He reports being able to "keep it together" at work and that his work in not suffering at this stage. He has become more restless and irritable with people, especially in social situations which he describes as excruciating and pointless. Introduction While there are a large number of psychotherapy approaches that could be effective in treating Anthony and his symptoms, the two therapies I have selected to compare and apply to Anthony's case are Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and Client-Centered Therapy (CCT). I will first provide a brief overview of each approach, then conduct a comparison of both.
Ruth would constantly avoid his pressing questions about his race and about her background, causing him to wonder about his own identity. This proved to be extra difficult while coping with divided feelings of existing in a racially stratified society as a biracial male. Although he felt a deep love and respect for his mother, he yearned for the two of them to be the same. James felt embarrassed by his mother’s white race because it was the source of his conflicting view of himself and where he fit into society. It was a constant reminder that he was different from his peers and their families who shared a common culture.
You cannot express your true feelings because it is uncomfortable and rude from the Normal’s standpoint. Goffman would consider this humor a type of passing. Because the normal person would only be able to show some level of sympathy, but they can never reach empathy. The lack of empathy makes the handicapped feel isolated as if there is no way to relate and try to become as normal as possible through jokes. In all four stories jokes were used to relieve an awkward moment; Murphy with his colleges, Ernie with family and friends, Galen with his doctors, and Vicki with her neighbors when she needed assistance.
Due to his background teachers regarded him as a hopeless cause because his difficulty in using Received Pronunciation which contrasts against Harrison's attitude towards language and that there is a variety of dialect within the English language which everyone uses to convey a conversation with one another. When Harrison was young he was overawed by his "posh" teacher who embarrassed him resulting in him feeling demeaned and docile. The first section is in the form of a memory emphasised through the embedded dialogue of the teacher showing how he is undermined as the teacher wants to make sure their "glorious heritage" is not "done to death" suggesting that teacher is aiming to undermine Harrison by discouraging him from reading the important roles. Similarly, in "Bringing Up", he emphasises his separation from his mother as she disgusted over him using taboo language. The use of embedded dialogue implies the different view on the Leeds accent emphasised in his mother being disgusted with him and believes he was not "brought up to write such mucky books!"
My parents just could not afford a new coat at the time. I am not mad and I am not blaming my parents for that. Just like Mabry, I understand those tough choices my family had to face. In my opinion, there is no substitute for personal experience and only a person who comes from an impoverished environment can truly understand the rigors it generates. Therefore, I totally agree with Mabry’s statement that “our friends are willing to listen, but most of them are unable to imagine the pain of the impoverished lives” (116).
So, because of these differences, they may cause have problems for each other consciously or unconsciously. For instance, if you are a shi'e and on of your mates is sonni you may have lots of disagreements in your beliefs. Consider he is praying and you cross from the front of him, it makes him mad of you and drives her crazy, although you didn't mean anything in fact and you didnâ€™t think it may creates any problems for him. But living at home you can find friends and mates from your own city, with the same culture and beliefs. So you can live together with no misunderstandings, joyfully and funny because you are aware of what irritates them or makes them enjoy.
I don’t go around bragging about every good thing in my life because I don’t think it’s necessary though my friends and family thinks otherwise they i should be able to talk about every good thing that happens in my life. Quiet – I haven’t always appreciated my quiet nature but it’s something I really like about myself. I think because I’m a quiet, I bring a calmer presence to the people in my life but some people see my being quiet as not being smart or dull. i talk less when am in a conversation because i believe other people should be given the opportunity to share their views or opinions and i dont want to be seen as someone who knows it all. i leave the lights on when i go to bed because am afraid of the dark and the unknown.