It is important to engage in the client’s world so they are able to express their feelings. This will then lead for exploration, to be able to accept previously denied aspects of self-involving checking with the client which should be natural and free flowing. Respecting the individuality for the client (Mearns and Thorne, 2007). Rogers considered empathy as a ''state of being'', however Truax and Carkhuff defined empathy as a communication skill. A number of difficulties arose within the concept of empathy.
The reasons for this may be that people not be offended, we will not say something which may upset or provide a trigger for a vulnerable service user or put ourselves at risk. We reveal less intimate details about our personal lives in a work setting and people only know the basic facts about what our lives are like when not at work. In a personal relationship, it is acceptable to reveal details of what we do in our spare time and our relationships with others. This is in part because people we work with, such as service users, other staff or other professionals, do not need to know, talking about ourselves takes up time and makes us inefficient, if we are talking about ourselves we are not listening and are taking up time when a service user, member of staff or another professional may have something they need to share with us which is more urgent. We may also be putting ourselves and those around us at risk.
First, in describing autonomy/connection it is the ways that people desire for personal identity and space but also have a longing to be together and to belong to another person. Next, the novelty/predictability dynamic infers that we want for new and exciting things within our relationships yet we also wish to keep a routine and predictable relationship. Finally, the dynamic of openness/closedness describes the struggle in relationships for our desire to share different parts of our lives with others but also wanting to keep certain parts of our lives separate and private. Mattingly, Oswald, and Clark (2001) studied the importance of understanding why some people are more effective at maintaining relationships and how important that understanding is in helping people who are struggling with interpersonal issues. Their research included integrating individual differences such as relational-interdependent self-construal (RISC) and communal orientation and how this integration can benefit the relationship process.
One man went as far as yelling out the window to leave the woman alone thee proceed to do what he was doing before. I totally disagree with this because I know if I was in this situation I would want someone to help by at least calling the police. One call could save a life and it scares me to know how ignorant people can be in a situation like this. We have to stop going along with what the crowd is doing and do the right thing. This is a typical example of the bystander affect, we see something is wrong but we proceed with what we are doing since no one else is doing anything about it.
In the story, Gawain finds himself torn between doing what a damsel asks (accepting the girdle) and keeping his promise. And he decides that not to take a nice gift from a gorgeous lady, whose seductions he already rejected couple of times, would be also considered as breaking the code of chivalry to this lady. She would regard him as a rude and impolite knight. On the other hand, I can also say that his desire to live and save his life was a bigger temptation to him than accepting the love of the
Cognitive restructuring techniques commonly center on producing a confident self-image, encouraging constructive social interactions, and removing thought deformations (mistakes in reasonableness or points of view). However, regardless of their shared goals, diverse approaches apply to some extent, different actions and ways to achieve their purpose (CTU Online, 2012, pg.1). The primary theory behind cognitive restructuring is that an individual’s reactions and conduct can be significantly influenced by something they believe. If an individual could intentionally alter the habit of what they say to themselves, and what depictions they portray to themselves, then they could render themselves more content or nicer or more constructive or could achieve one of numerous other beneficial adjustments; simply stated, that by correcting our way of reasoning, we can constructively change how we feel and how we take action (Strayhorn, 2003). The cognitive restructuring theory would facilitate Tom in learning to control his anger by learning how to change his way of thoughts, thus changing how he permits events to control his
Values are essential components of belief systems. They are the highly-perceptible ingredients that help bind members of social groups and cultures together in their common belief systems. Values are action-oriented, providing fast, simplified judgement calls for certain kinds of situation. They reduce the need for time-consuming consideration of alternative views and actions, and are often applied where factual information is not available. An experience is knowledge or practical wisdom that is gained from what one has observed, encountered or undergone.
By understanding and recognizing your strengths and weaknesses, you are already improving your communication competence, further strengthening your emotional intelligence. When we pay attention to, and understand the underlying components of emotional intelligence and communication competence, we become better communicators with others (Bevan& Sole, 2014). Though communication competence is an aspect of emotional intelligence, it has two important components within itself that you must understand before you can work on your communication abilities. One is communication effectiveness, and the other is communication appropriateness. The effectiveness of communication between yourselves is to have the ability to get what you want out of the interaction (Bevan & Sole, 2014).
Second, the team needs to work out some complex issues. In this case, identity-related are involving: the cross- functional team members are geographically dispersed and have different background. According to the “Managing Conflicts in Organizations”, compromising approach is better when a conflict has identity-related factors as a cause. All in all, compromising is the most appropriate response in Lauren’s case. Compromising approach is best to work under the time pressure and can also achieve consensus to complex issues.