Communication Essay

762 WordsApr 30, 20124 Pages
There are only two ways of communicating, verbally and nonverbally. Communication is an act of interacting with the speaker and the listener but is it really that simple when it comes to communicating with the opposite sex? In Deborah Tannen’s “Sex, Lies, and Conversation,” she discusses how men and women encounter complications due to having different expectations of communication from the opposite sex. Tannen addresses two ways that differences in body language between men and women can cause communication problems by having men lacking eye contact and concentration while women would show their attention by being more intimate and responsive. The first thing that Tannen pointed out about the differences between men and women’s body language is that men have the tendency to show their attention by inadvertently listening in a more indirect manner. For instance when Tannen presented a scenario of a college woman wanting to have a conversation with her boyfriend “…she told her boyfriend she wanted to talk to him, he would lie down on the floor, close his eyes, and put his arm over his face. This signaled to her, "He's taking a nap,"” (Tannen)this leaving the women of having the impression that her boyfriend is not listening or is uninterested in what she wants to discuss which can lead to more frustration and argument. Although Tannen also pointed out and defended that the boyfriend is actually listening to her by affirming, “But he insisted he was listening extra hard. Normally, he looks around the room, so he is easily distracted. Lying down and covering his eyes helped him concentrate on what she was saying.” In my case, whenever I want to speak to my own boyfriend about a problem he would also act in a similar way by fidgeting with random objects with his eyes fixated on it and not on me causing me to become aggravated that he isn’t listening

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