Even today in some cultures monogamy and love are not seen as a necessary part of a marriage, men or woman can seek out other needs and not be ridiculed for it It is believed mostly in Western culture that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems and be sexually faithful to each other. Emotional happiness seems the ultimate goal. A happy marriage is defined differently throughout the world, but only recently have the emotional and sexual needs of the partners become emphasized. Sell2 This seems unrealistic when compared against a historical world view especially how Western Cultures revere marriage.
There are many different reasons why couples cohabit today. Moving in with your partner is the next logical step in a serious relationship for many people nowadays. For some couples, it is a pre-marital step. Most couples who cohabit would like to get married one day. On the other hand, there are couples who have no intention of getting married, but enjoy the benefits of living together.
The decline of secularisation also contributes to the decline in marriage rates. The Church has always been in favour of couples marrying, however less people are practising religion and the influence of the Church is declining too. Without this influence we are again free to choose what type of relationship we desire and marriage does not seem as relevant as it previously was. The days are long gone since women were expected to stay at home doing the house work and looking after children whilst men had careers. There are prevalent job opportunities on offer for women now in comparison with the lack of opportunities in previous years.
Who would have ever thought that the day to day discussions were nothing more than mere communication? I relate to and understand this article, it makes sense and provides a logical insight into what most marriages are lacking. I had never realized that as time has gone by, my husband is in fact, not as familiar to me as he used to be. Again, lack of quality communication. Needless to say, I am in full agreement that self-disclosure in a marriage is a vital part of a successful and happy marriage.
People are also expecting more from marriage, and women especially are choosing to live alone due to feminist views. One reason for the growth in single hood could be the change in the law for divorce. In 1969 the Divorce Reform Act allowed people to divorce easier, as it meant they could put in place a no fault act. This meant that people didn't feel forced to stay in a marriage that made them unhappy. Furthermore, this would lead to a lot of people expecting more from relationships after getting divorced, as they wouldn't want to fall victim to what cause their last marriage to end again.
Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married. I do agree with her about this and also, the point about the media blowing the idea of happily ever after out of proportion by just believing that only true love will hold a marriage together that is false. True love can bring people together but would not keep them together, this is something that marriages cannot solely rely on it takes hard work and dedication to keep a marriage
Arranged marriages are marriages negotiated by the parents of the couples. In this kind of marriage, people sometimes are forced to marry the one that they do not love. For centuries, the only way to get married in most of cultures has been arranged marriage because it has been believed this kind of marriage makes the economic, political, social alliances stronger and firmer. Although in most Western countries people oppose arranged marriage because they think that this kind of marriage limits their personal freedom, it still occurs in parts of the Middle East, Africa, Asia, and Vietnam. In Afghanistan, people usually practice arranged marriage in some ways, approximately sixty and eighty percent.
Almost all people think that getting married the one who he or she loves is natural. But there are some situations when someone cannot get married to him or her because it is socially unacceptable. The definition of marriage for different people means different things. Marriage has some forms, but nowadays the same sex marriage is the most discussed topic. So in this essay I’m going to compare the traditional marriage and the same sex marriage.
Communication in Happy Marriages Patrick Thompson COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor Debra Austin May 20th, 2012 I believe that communication is very important in not just marriages but also when you are dating. If you do not know the person that you are dating or married to then I believe that the relationship would be setting up to fail. I can say that my fiancée and I have decent conversations but I am pretty sure that there is a lot more that we could learn about each other. Due to the lack of conversation between my fiancée and me early on in our relationship, there were hardships. After almost coming to a breaking point we had to learn how to conversate in a way that didn’t come off as hostile or not actually hearing
What are the factors that lead to a good marriage and how can we know if the other person is right for us? Cohabitation among younger groups of individuals before choosing to marry have a less success rate of continuing a happy life together than that of people who wait and live together after they have married. Traditionally, husband and wife roles are established during the course of the relationship no matter if couples are married or not. However, this can be a difficult transition, and it appears that couples who are comfortable with living together without long-term commitment tend to be more comfortable with the idea of divorce. (Marriage[->0] 2010) Neither pre marital living arrangement nor marriage necessarily implies equality.