Neff also addresses the fact that there are people who are against people moving in together before marriage. She states that it’s a personal decision people make because living together can have lasting positive effects that can later solidify a marriage. The author also states while living together may be valuable for some relationships, it can also be the source of an unhappy ending for others. Even though people love each other and spend a lot of time together, the question still remains, “Can you live together?” I agree with the author’s views on living together before marriage because I am currently sharing a space with my boyfriend. Living together before marriage helps a couple establish roles and responsibilities in the household.
Overall it could therefore be argued that rather than partners becoming more equal, women now have to carry a ‘dual burden’, whereby she is responsible for two jobs of unpaid or paid labour. Factors such as patriarchy and conforming to a gender script will lead to these divisions. Secondly, it could be argued that the money management within a family has an effect on the power relations between couples. Edgell argues that the reason why men are likely to take the decisions is because they earn more; women usually earn less than their husbands, and as a result of being dependant on them, have less say in the decision making. Similarly, Michelle Barrett and Mary McIntosh additionally argue that men usually make the decisions about spending on important items.
Many couples end up deciding that the woman and the children will take the males last name, because that it just how it has always been and why change the tradition. Many women find that having the same last name as their husband helps them feel more like a family, and a new name is an important symbol of the journey they are taking together. Personally, when I get married, I will gladly change my last name to whatever my husband happens to be, because following the tradition is important to me. Williamson gave her own experience on how not following tradition can affect everyone in the family when she stated “He’d just delivered the happiest news of his mother’s life - that her first grandchild had been born and followed up with a sucker punch to the heart. The baby was going to have my last name” (69) Williamson’s mother-in-law is woman who
The common perception of marriage is that it was originally weighted heavily in favour of the male member of the couple, and that this has shifted slowly to a more even-handed arrangement in recent years. This essay will examine the question of how accurate this belief really is. Historically, marriage was highly unequal. While the husband took the role of breadwinner and went out to earn the necessary money to support the family, his wife was expected to stay at home and look after the more mundane tasks that make up the day-to-day running of a household. As the former role was commonly seen as more valuable than the latter, this often meant that the husband held most of the power, such as deciding where they would live, how resources were distributed, etc.
You must always maintain a respect for one another, in words and actions. It is a terrific blessing for a long time. Marriage is what you make of it. The changes that stand out to Viola in family life today are men and women roles are more alike than ever before. The wives no longer cook for the family or take care of the children and the husband is no longer the primary sources for the family.
For example before it was very tradition for a woman to get married and be a stay at home wife looking after the children and depend on the man to be the breadwinner and support his family however, because there has been a change in the role of the woman the woman does not to fall back on the man anymore. For example there has been a rise in feminism therefore woman are being treated more equally and can get jobs and have careers like men and they can be the breadwinner. Also because there have been changes in the law, it is now easier for couples to get a divorce. The laws have equalized the ground for divorce between the sexes, it has widened the grounds for divorce and it has become cheaper to get a divorce. Also another reason for divorce rates changing could be because of societies attitudes towards marriage and divorce.
In today’s society families consist of civil unions, single parents, and families that try to utilize and keep the same values that were present in the 1950’s. These families are faced with restrictions from society, living up to the expectations to provide the same love and support as the traditional families do. Everyday these families prove that they are capable of breaking the molds. In life we are affected by the decisions that politicians make everyday based on marriage. We are facing a big problem in society about marriages and their stances on civil unions.
Nanny believed that love was second to stability and security. Only after those first two criteria were satisfied then and only then could one experience love. Nanny felt that a young girl like Janie was too young to make decisions for herself, so when she caught Janie exploring her womanhood Nanny felt that she needed to marry Janie as quickly as possible so that she could find love in a safe a secure environment. Nanny has her own ideals when it comes to marriage and Janie will soon learn that everyone's are different. Second, Janie sees Logan Killicks' perception of marriage.
During that time, the expected role of men and women are different, men were expected to be a bread winner and women just expected to be a house wife. However, Ibsen believes these roles limit individual freedom and his play “A Doll’s House” explores the belief that duty to self in more important, and must come before duty to others. The beliefs in 19thcentury and values are different from now. In that time, women’s personal growth and freedom are limited. At that time, a woman’s life is just like passing from her father’s hand to her husband’s.
The men were expected to support the family from a whole variety of occupations. And they were expected to improve the positions of all members of the family through influence and support from wealthier people and families than their own. When it came to a marriage, the woman would have very little, if any, choice in the decision. The woman would be expected to bring a dowry (a wedding portion) and would be expected to accept the choice of her father/brother/uncle (or whoever was ‘in-charge’ of her). Usually, the woman would be married off to a family of the same status.