This has been an area of disagreement between Anthony and his wife and has led to a number of heated arguments between the two of them. Anthony described himself as fairly conservative and not a risk taker, and said that sometimes he couldn’t believe he had accepted a job in such a large company. On questioning, Anthony said that he sometimes felt OK and reasonably good about himself, but that these good feelings frequently gave way to incredible doubts and feelings of hopelessness, that he often felt ‘not good enough’ and ‘not worthy’. He had experienced these feelings before, but he felt they were more intense and more frequent since moving to his current position. He commented, “I’m not the person I thought I would turn out to be” and “I’m disappointed in myself”.
He later says how "I was not enthusiastic about his visit.... A blind man in my house was not something I looked forward to” (100). Upon the arrival of his wife’s friend, the husband is ultimately uncomfortable around Robert because he does not know how to communicate with or act around him. His discomfort is revealed when Robert and his wife were sharing their experiences “about the major things that had come to pass for them in the past ten years” (100). He felt it was necessary to join in because he thought Robert would “think [he] left the room and didn’t want [his wife] to think [he] was feeling left out” (103). It is obvious the husband is overly involved with Robert’s handicap and fails to see him as a person with his
Tracy is doing well in her school work, but has temper tantrums at home when things do not go her way. Harold was recently laid off from a job he held for over 10 years and is feeling very discouraged. His mother has loaned him money until he can find another job, but he worries about his ability to take care of his family. Shirley returned home from duty three weeks ago. She was initially very happy to see her family, but is having trouble adjusting to being back home.
When this problem becomes too difficult for either one of them to handle they begin to blame each other for their misfortunes but realize that they only have each other’s support to get through it and suddenly their differences don’t seem that important. Nader, the husband and Simin, the wife have been married for 14 years and live with their 11-year-old daughter Termeh in Tehran, Iran. The family belongs to the urban upper middle-class Simin wants to leave the country with her husband and daughter for a better future for them. But this desire is not shared by Nader as he is concerned for his elderly father, who lives with the family and suffers from Alzheimer's disease and has no one else to take care of him. When Nader tells his wife about his decision to stay in Iran, Simin pleads with him for their daughter’s sake but Nader is adamant about his decision which leads to a filing for divorce by her.
They married when Vickie was 17 and Ben was 18. They have been married for 10 years and have one child, Brad (4). Ben has been a hard worker, but has not been able to keep a job for more than 2 years at a time. He starts out okay, but soon becomes disillusioned and feels taken advantage of. He usually gets in an argument with his boss or coworkers over a perceived injustice and walks off the job.
There is obvious tension between the husband and his wife though we are never told what the tension is about. This tension follows into their conversation about the blind man coming to stay with them. The wife is so determined that the blind man stay at their house even though her husband does not want him there, that she says, “If you love me, You can do this for me. If you don’t love me, okay. But if you had a friend, any friend, and the friend came to visit, I’d make him feel comfortable.”(8) Of course once the blind man gets there the husband is no more inclined to be nice to him than he was in the beginning, because he notices that his wife is happy around Robert.
So without her help Li would have been left out and probably never went to Beijing, but all this went out from luck he was really close to not be chosen. Li was determined to be the best and leave poverty. At his first year at the Beijing academy he hated it and never wanted to go back, he was homesick he didn’t get good grades. But how come he was such a successful dancer at the end? In Chapter 11 when he came home for the Chinese New Year he told his dad about his low grades and instead of his dad shouting at him, he says “I don’t know what grades your classmates have received, but I hope you will come home with better grades next year” in chapter 11, the pen.
You can tell that he misses her, but at the same time he is confused because they’ve only seen each other for a few hours. We also hear about the relationship he has to his father. His father left the family to find himself and thought it would be the best for Max and his mom. This didn’t fit very well with Max, so from that point he hated his own father. This took Max’ enthusiasm from school away and he started to take his life from school unserious.
The case of David Reimer highlights many of these issues and helps explain why they need to be addressed fully. A child does not have the ability to make an informed decision on their gender and the decision is passed to the parents. The parents would be thoroughly briefed before deciding on the gender they wish their child to be changed to, suggesting it is somewhat ethical as parents hold responsibility over the child so have made a informed decision and consent. However, as David Reimer showed, the decision of the parents is not always right and can cause great problems in later life when the child grows up and realises who they are. It is also evident that in some cases parents would be deceived.
On the other hand, his mom is faced with a similar situation; she is a recently widowed mother that is having trouble letting go. Even though she knows she needs to let him do his own thing, she is having trouble doing so. No matter what the age, someone may come to this situation and have trouble knowing what to do. Individuals who allow themselves to open up and try new things without worrying about what others think, can accomplish goals which they originally thought weren’t possible; accomplishing these goals can be the way to prove to yourself and others that you are ready to take the next step, no matter what that step is. When people feel insecure, they may try to impress others, instead of doing what they know is the right choice for them.