Can You Hear Me Analysis

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Can You Hear Me? Angie Siegenthaler Liberty University Can You Hear Me? Summary Petersen, J.C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better: Communicating and connecting in relationships. Portland, OR: Petersen Publications. Communication is a complicated and multifaceted concept that can make or break our everyday relationships. Why Don’t We Listen Better? by James Petersen discussed many of the issues that people struggle with along with thought provoking solutions. Petersen (2007) said that communication has two levels: …sharing information and connecting with others. The body language of tone, expression, and engagement come into play at both levels… For all of us, communication at its best can mean applying love and acceptance in how…show more content…
‘Ritual listening’ is one trap to avoid which is basically just fake listening because the real purpose is to tune out until it is your turn to talk. The ‘Perry Mason’ trap hides an accusation or statement with a question. ‘Why?’ is a similar trap which is also a form of an accusation. The ‘Not?’ question is not truly a question but a way to add your own insight into something. ‘I understand’ is another way to kill communication especially when this statement is made during a conversation surrounding a sensitive topic like death, illness, etc… The last noted trap is ‘Yes, but’ and this is more argumentative than anything. Others know that these words usually mean no and people tend to tune out everything that has been said up until the…show more content…
I realize that these changes will not come easy but well worth it in the end. The first major change would be a paradigm shift in how I view communication in general and its connection to listening. I now know that listening is an action word and there are so many things I can do to help the listening process be more fruitful for each party involved. I have come to the realization that communicating is a give and take relationship and not something that is all about me. I will no longer tune people out if I disagree with them but I will truly listen and ask questions. I will be interested in their thoughts and feelings, and I will take the risk and share my own as
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