It's easy to see why Rich believes that when she was a student, what she was taught "in no way prepared [female students] to survive as . . .wom[e]n in a world organized by men" (211). In my opinion, not a lot of women around this age would have been brave enough to write an article about taking women students serious for fear of oppression. Many women probably did not even know how to write because their were neglected from their studies or were probably always to busy doing what ever their husbands wanted them to do.
Many teenage females are not willing to discuss this topic with their parents and will not feel any more at ease talking to a man. A better sense of information would come from a female facilitator because she would be able to relate where a man cannot. He would need to not give his own personal opinions as this might influence participants towards other position or opinion in regards to the issues at hand (Morgan,
Who’s Really to Blame? In the story, “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”, Connie the main character is considered as a self centered person who only cares about herself. She only has concerns about her looks and flirting with the older boys she meets. Connie knows about her looks and always make sure she looks her best. She prefers to spend more time with herself than with her family because of this she has a weak relationship with her parents.
This was her first misstep. Bogle takes it as a fact that all her interviewees told the truth and also that no one would join the culture by choice. The men and women could have lied in order to seem more respectable in the eyes of Bogle, their elder and a psychologist. For example, some women may have said that peer pressure was their reason to join simply because they felt that Bogle would have seen them as a “slut” if they had actually wanted to participate in the hook-up culture. Secondly, she also assumed that all students cared enough about others’ opinions that they would have been swayed by the pressure placed upon them.
The article talks about the gender role between men and women role during intimacy and how affectionate they can become. Some men loves attention and so does women too. On the other hand, although they both love this attention, they need to give each other breathing space so that they can bond deeper with each other to not finding flaws of a relationship. Being an attentive person and to someone needs at all time will be required, if it persist. But, what will happen when one day that attention cannot be given because one decide to do something differently, then the other person will feel like they are not being loved or wanted anymore.
She understood that the fighting between gangs was useless, because every kid was an individual, not just a unit in a group. She wanted to write about boys because, she says, at that time girls didn't do much. They waited around for their boyfriends, concentrating on their hair and makeup. She didn't want to be that way, so she spent time with boys and wrote about them. She felt that the books for people her age lacked realism.
Once I began attending the new school things were difficult because my new teacher was completely different from my previous teacher. I would get into trouble for not following directions and it was also difficult for me to make new friends at such a young age. I feel the difficulty of making friends was in some ways contributed to because of the tight bonds my siblings and had. Sibling relationships are less vulnerable to negative effects of conflict than friendships are perhaps the involuntary nature of sibling relationships heightens tolerance of negative affect (Hartup & Laurens, 1993; Katz et al. 1992) Having the closeness somewhat deterred us from seeking friendships outside of our comfort zone.
Instead of openly hitting on a girl, we must flirt, we must hint, being openly sexual is frowned upon at school or work. The men of my generation have been raised differently; many have been raised by women without a male figure in their life. Women are also different, they work for themselves, compete and are self-sufficient; clearly a stark contrast from their classical counterparts. Men work alongside women in the workplace at school and are taught to be professional, to respect a woman as a colleague instead of an object of sexual desire. However I believe that beneath this layer of “properness” there is the still the raw sexuality of our nature.
The very first high school that I attended was Christ The King which was a catholic school, and because I was the new kid I really didn’t know anyone. So I tried to get to know some people, but because I'm shy that didn't work out for me so I just stayed talking to the one person that I knew. The environment in that school was so different as far as school work and the school district went; their rules were really strict the girls couldn't wear more than two colors on their nails, or in their hair and if so we would get a detention. We also would get a detention if we were caught with our phones or if we were chewing gum; I received plenty of detentions for my nails,chewing gum, and my phone. They had us work once a week on certain days in different places; I’ve worked in a health clinic and MB financial bank.
I felt like they all tried to intimidate us about junior high school. Always reminding us that we are “up a creak without a paddle” trying to make us work harder. I also didn’t enjoy class because of the environment; our freedom was restricted due to the bubble of protection around us. Thinking about it now I feel as though the staff was over bearing trying to mature us to quickly. Overall middle school was the worst two years of my life.