Practical Book Review Practical Book Review: Why Don’t We Listen Better? LaTasha Daniel Liberty University Practical Book Review: Why Don’t We Listen Better? Summary “Why Don’t We Listen Better”, a resource book written by James C. Peterson informing readers about effective listening and improving communication skills by sharing his personal and seminary training experiences. “The word communication derives from the root “to commune,” It has at least two levels-sharing information and connecting with others” (Peterson, 2007, p 18). Petersen start out in part one of his book with discussing how he learned the value of communication balancing through observation of
It’s like a toxic candy with poison inside but sweet sugar covering outside. Congress may not be able to predict the consequences, or it could have already recognized the negative outcomes but still chose to continue because the results sound good to people. Raising the minimum wage won’t be efficient unless it’s adjusted sufficiently and accordingly to the movement of market wages and inflation (even by doing so, there will be still a number of job losing but that’s unavoidable). Otherwise, nothing but the opportunity of teenagers –the future of the world- will be damaged. Works Cited Frisby, John.
The first of which is a correct way of putting it, and the second way is a much more insensitive way of saying it. It is also important to make sure that we communicate the information at the correct time to prevent a misunderstanding of the message. The place and method of communication is also important in communicating a sensitive subject effectively and sensitively. The carer will need to bare in mind that there are many ways Argyles theory can switch into Shannon-Weavers at any point of the conversation because you may realise at the start the victim cannot hear you due to them being deaf, maybe they are blind and cannot see you which makes it harder to communicate. It might not just include Mrs Jones having sensory impairments; there may be a disruption if someone was to barge into the room, maybe to be nosey about the information being spoken about or for help with
Portland, OR: Petersen Publications. HEY! My Summation In Why don’t we listen better?, James Petersen teaches the world what it should have known all along: the key to effective communication is in the listening. Like a good investment made at the Buy rather than the Sell, or a wine that is better now than when it was bottled 40 years ago, human communication is somewhat of a minor paradox. The brain takes a finely tuned ear to communicate well, not a great voice with excellent diction, nor a sharp wit; not even a Superman-like sense
One of the important ethical issues to check, is that you do not know the person, and that you are not connected in anyway that is inappropriate, this is called a dual relationship this may be unavoidable in small towns, we would also need to assess that that there are no sexual attractions, on this basis the therapist may decide they cannot work with the client, and may offer the client an alternative therapist. The prospect that this could happen must be explained to the client in the initial consultation, so you can build trust, and the client can feel that you are working in their best interests. It is also important to make sure that the power of the relationships formed between therapist and client is of an equal one, it is extremely valuable to empower your client, and not take the power. The only time a therapist should show authoritarian power is when using inductions which require this
He then shows us areas to avoid, as well as how to improve as both a listener and speaker. In the first section of the book, Options in Communicating, Petersen (2007) breaks the listening puzzle down to its most basic form, our emotions. . He describes three areas, the stomach, the heart and the head and how each respond in varying listening situations. The stomach functions
Normally, we would not argue about children, but the statement that was made by me was taken out of context. We ended up settling everything, but that just goes to show how things can go left if you are miscommunicating with other people. Miscommunication is described as a lack of clear or adequate communication. In order to make sure that a miscommunication does not happen in the future, you have to make your voice well heard. Make sure that you are saying things in a way that it cannot be mistaken for anything other than it is.
Yet I would not expect someone that isn’t as close to me to immediately grasp what it is I am trying to get across. Taking the description and details out only because it is someone close to me puts a strain on our relationship at times. My frustration and annoyance that I am still being asked to help when I briefly stated I wanted me to take over starts an argument. Being clear in communication could avoid future arguments. After reading this article I see that no matter how long you know someone or how close you are to them the communication needs to be clear.
‘Ritual listening’ is one trap to avoid which is basically just fake listening because the real purpose is to tune out until it is your turn to talk. The ‘Perry Mason’ trap hides an accusation or statement with a question. ‘Why?’ is a similar trap which is also a form of an accusation. The ‘Not?’ question is not truly a question but a way to add your own insight into something. ‘I understand’ is another way to kill communication especially when this statement is made during a conversation surrounding a sensitive topic like death, illness, etc… The last noted trap is ‘Yes, but’ and this is more argumentative than anything.
It is important for each word to be effective in the process of hypnosis, and the preferred and most effective language will be different for each person, due to individual differences. This is why personalised inductions are important. Messages need to be delivered to clients in words, rather than body language (Chrysalis, 2010), and this will be more effective when the words used are more personal to the client so they can relate to the words they are hearing and create more real imagery with a comfortable and safe experience. This comfortable and safe experience can be created in personalised inductions with the use of modalities. Modalities are used by altering the language to suit personality and client individuality.