• This approach only gives attention to the present and the future desires of the client. The past is only revisited to prevent the reoccurrence of unsuccessful behavior. • Counseling technique does not look for a cure for the client’s problem it teaches the client how to manage their problems and live within the problem that is suitable for them. • It does not see the client as fundamentally deficient, the client is not seen as the problem but rather in the problem or under the influence of the problem • the counselor views the clients’ problems positively and encourages the client to focus on what is going right in their lives opposing to what is not
In its purest form this means simply providing a safe space for the client to visit where they can talk about anything they wish to. The therapist’s role is merely to listen to the client. Brodley suggests that “The client-centred therapist does not usually take a history … does not ask leading or probing questions, does not volunteer interpretations or explanations about the client to the client…”. The therapist is merely empathetic, congruent, nonjudgemental and honest. He should possess and utilise all these skills in an unconditional manner.
In this field we deal with all kinds of people and problems. They come to us broken, hurting, angry, confused and so much more. Being able to have compassion for that person no matter what their situation may be, and to do your best to meet them where they are at, where ever that may be. So that we can help them help themselves to a better life and understanding of themselves. When a counselor has compassion it is something that is so true and vibrant.
In the same respect, how we conduct ourselves as therapist is also key to this. An open friendly manor is helpful and things such as voice tone, pace and language etc should be addressed. There would be no sense in talking jargon or confusing your client with elaborate language as this would only encourage them to disengage with you unless of course they were very academic and this is how they spoke. There are lots of ways in which we can build rapport such as mirroring. As the word suggests this would entail the therapist ‘copying’ the client’s body language, posture, tone of voice or pace.
Understandably a counsellor may also experience a sense of personal familiarity, whilst counselling clients, but must remain emotionally detached at all times. Relating to clients, in a positive, open manner, encourages the client to disclose in a comfortable, confidential environment and provides the counsellor with the ideal setting in which to communicate in a supportive way. Using their own life experiences, a counsellor can demonstrate empathy, compassion and understanding without becoming personally involved in the counselling process. Becoming More Self-Aware Self-awareness is something that grows over a period of time and with exploration. Techniques, to access information about oneself, can be learned, and personal experiences can affect personal thoughts and feelings.
Mearns and Thornes 2007 stated: The more a counsellor is able to be herself in the relationship without putting up a professional front or a personal façade the greater will be the chance of the client changing and developing in a positive and constructive manner. (p.17) It is the “unique humanity” of the counsellor offered in the therapeutic relationship that creates effective results (Mearns and Thorne, 2007). Congruence is not about title or status rather it is “a state of being” of the counsellor where her outward communication to the client reflects her inner experience of her client (Mearns and Thorne, 2007). This requires the therapist coming down to the level of the client and not come across as being the expert. For a genuine conversation to take place the client must be treated as an equal partner and counsellor must come across as being real and not fake.
Incongruent client, they will be anxious or vulnerable showing discrepancy in actual events and their reality. Empathy describes the ability of the counsellor to connect and understand the client at deep level. Empathy allows the counsellor to get into the unique world of the client without judging or making assumptions about the client. “To sense the client’s private world as if it were your own, but without ever losing the ‘as if’ quality” (Rogers,
Intimacy and the Therapeutic Process “No matter that the patient’s relationship to the therapist is ‘temporary’, the experience of intimacy is permanent, it can never be taken away” (Yalom, 1980, p.406). Introduction Very often clients come to therapy seeking connection and some sort of meaning to their life, they feel lost, as if something is missing within them. I believe this sense of ‘emptiness’ is a desire for intimacy, not just with another but ultimately with themselves, therefore the therapeutic relationship becomes the container for growth, exploration, and self- discovery. And although the relationship will come to an end, the intimacy experienced within the therapeutic process will be internalized by the client and hence become their new frame of reference for their interpersonal relationships. In this essay I will give a brief outline of what intimacy is, I will then look at some of the relevant theories in developmental psychology and discuss how they apply to me both personally and as a therapist.
Superson’s goal is to defeat the skeptic and does not believe self-interest is sufficient enough to do so. I understand the approach Superson is making about self-interest but I don’t think she is looking at all aspects of the topic. I think people will always act in self-interested ways regardless of the circumstances; people act according to their dispositions, not by force, unless they are being coerced of course. It is human nature to instinctively maximize our personal utility. We act in ways that we see fit, whether or not an act is considered moral is completely dependent upon the individual.
People today for whatever reason, consider hypnosis for a variety of problems - weight loss ,confidence issues, addiction treatment etc... and will not accept this type of behavior from a therapist - they need and expect to be treated with respect. When creating a personalized induction, a good therapist must always take into account a clients needs at all times, paying attention to their likes and dislikes including any hobbies and their work. It will always be an advantage to both parties to be aware of and steer clear of topics that will repel them and patterns of speech and behavior that will help them relax and put them at ease. It’s important that the affirmations mean