Attachment Style And Relationships

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Attachment Style and Relationships An individual’s attachment style will have a strong effect upon the type of love relationship he or she will have. Following the study results of Hazen and Shaver (1994), we can surmise that the relationship between an infant and their parents will likely define the type of relationships the child will be prone to in adulthood. It is also logical to assume that whatever relationship infants have with their parents will be unchanged even as they grow older. Since people are not born with an innate relationship style, it is something that is learned from their primary caregiver when they are as early as infancy. It is a continual educational process through childhood, as well. To explain how attachment styles affect love relationships, the reasoning behind the attachment styles must be examined. According to Harvey & Byrd (2000), Hazen and Shaver’s study in 1994 found that interactions early in life determined whether people will have a secure, avoidant, or anxious attachment style. The anxious attachment style, rarest among infants studied, is a result of inconsistent parenting styles. In the study, the inconsistent parenting style caused infants to cling anxiously to their mothers in unfamiliar settings, and cry when she left the room. While the mother was gone, the infants tended to not explore their surroundings, but act with indifference or hostility upon their mother’s return. Many of these infants continued to cry inconsolable after being picked up by their mothers. When infants, then children, are exposed to inconsistent parenting, they become insecure and anxious about close relationships as they grow older. When these people are involved in romantic relationships, they are clingy and unsure if their partner will remain with them. The anxious person feels that their significant other is reluctant to be “as close

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