Should parents be allowed to spank their kids? A child should definitely be spanked of course by the parent or guardian because a firm spanking teaches one not to do something bad again. A simple pop across the wrists or on the hand could possibly save a child's life in certain situations. A pop on the wrists or a pop on the butt is something the child will more likely remember far more than such of a "stern talking to" or a time out. Eventually after a few spankings here and there the child will learn from right and wrong very quickly.
Treating all boys like warriors and girls like homemakers is insulting to their intelligence and abilities, and is taking too strong a stance on gender differences. Rather, subtle differences in treatment would be more suitable, such as not allowing a girl to walk alone at night, or not encouraging a boy to play with dolls. It’s ok if he does want to play with dolls (and says very little about his masculinity), but there’s no need to force it on him like a parent would with a girl. There are many situations in which boys and girls should be treated the same. Teaching a boy that it’s ok to push and shove because of his testosterone levels will probably make him more violent in the long haul, and it’s a better idea to show kids of both genders that violence is never O.K.
More than four out of five Americans who were spanked by their parents as children say that it was an effective form of discipline" (Mattox 1). "Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him" Proverbs 22:15. Spanking is not something a parent does against the child, but for the child. It teaches children to be respectful and obedient to their parents. Dr. Kenneth Schonberg a pediatric doctor says, "There's no evidence that a child who is spanked moderately is going to grow up to be a criminal or anti-social or violent" (Rosellini 2).
In the article Gals and Dolls: The Moral Value of “Bad Toys” the author, Marni Jackson, uses several examples to show how overbearing parenting can be destructive to a child later on in life. The first piece of evidence she uses is from psychoanalyst Alice Miller. Who writes that any “system of moral values imposed on children is damaging” and uses the example that many of the world’s most notorious criminals grew up in a rigid and strict household. Jackson is careful to point out that Miller is not suggesting absent parenting, but instead fair treatment, that will help a child develop a stronger sense of justice than they would have with “moral correction”. Jackson than uses the example of children’s toys, and how simple parental awareness
I read the book “Who’s in Control: Dr. Balter’s Guide to discipline without combat” by Dr Lawrence Balter. He begins the book by discussing various parenting styles over the years. He discusses theories of ‘Sparing the rod and Spoiling the child’ and of training children as one would a pet. Regular beatings used to be a way of controlling children until psychoanalysis grew in popularity and was many times misunderstood, setting no limits on children and giving children free reign. Both parenting styles produced unhappy and un-self disciplined children.
Thrust into the real world with our confidence almost permanently shattered, we are expected to be successful and important when prior to that we were always told the opposite. Bullying harms us not only in our youth, but for the rest of our lives. In the poem “To This Day” by Shane Koyczan, we hear the story of children who have faced the effects of being bullied. A little girl for something as foolish as a birthmark on her face and a boy for thinking pork chops and karate chops were the same. Age did not change the words that cut through that poor little girl.
Freud believed that anal fixation results from parents being too strict with children during toilet training. The anally fixated adult may be obsessively clean and orderly and enjoy exerting control over others. On the other hand, children whose parents are too lenient during this phase of development may be grow up to become messy and disorganized adults. · &&&&&& Phallic Stage · The term "penis envy"
Many of the adoptees had criminal biological parents (particularly strong relationship for sons and fathers). There was no relationship in the types of crime committed. Where there was an improvement in social conditions there was a reduction in crime (going against the genetic explanation). Freud and Effect of Family Alexander and Healy (1935) suggested that children need to progress from the pleasure principal (being id dominated and therefore needing instant gratification) to the reality principle (where the ego is dominant). Criminals are those children who do not make this transition.
More importantly, out of this theory was where Freud developed his concept of the Oedipus and Electra complexes. Originating from the Greek tragedy Oedipus Rex, these theories state that children are jealous or their same sex parent and desire to sexually be with the parent of the opposite sex. When boys discover the anatomical differences between males and females, they fear that females are castrated males and that their incestuous thoughts will cause their father to harm them (Freud, 1962). The superego intervenes and instead the boy tries to emulate his father to have a better chance of eventually winning his mother over. These complexes supposedly remain with individuals for life and one is continually trying to resolve this conflict in their adult relationships (Hall, 1954).
This is the parent who lets adolescent children leave the house without knowing where they are going, who asks where they went when they return but without much comment, and who involves their children in all family decisions. Such parents may look the other way when their teens come home after drinking and may allow their teens to have sex with a boyfriend or girlfriend in their homes. Their slogans might be “Boys will be boys” and “That’s what teenagers do.” Quiz – What Type of Parent are you? Authoritarian If you chose more “B’s” than anything else, you are probably an “Authoritarian” Parent. Authoritarian Parents reverse the permissive approach: they are more demanding of their children than responsive to their