Abusive Relationships Essay

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An abusive relationship is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate power. Any kind of an abusive relationship is never easy to escape. Boyfriend violence, from verbal abuse to a slap in the face to harsher physical abuse, affects up to twenty eight percent of teenagers in an intimate relationship. Domestic Violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of fifteen and forty four in the United States. An abusive relationship typically begins with verbal abuse then it progresses to physical abuse. An abuser's power and control can take many forms: isolation, intimidation, using male privilege, threats, sexual abuse, economic abuse, and emotional abuse. Many of these forms work together and may eventually lead to physical abuse. Isolation is a very common tactic that abusers use to separate their partners from their friends, family, and other support systems. This makes their partners more likely to be dependent on them, more likely to believe what they say, and less likely to try to end the relationship (Belle). Isolation is the controlling of what he makes her say, do, who she talks to, and where she goes. If she has male friends, he uses derogatory comments such as "your trash". If she has female friends, he uses derogatory comments such as "your a lesbian". If she is close with her family, he might say, "you tied to the apron strings". He may want to go without a phone, he may not let her use the car, and he may not let her work or go to school (Clarina Howard Nichols Center). This usually evolves so gradually that most people won't even realize this until waking up one day and noticing they have no friends and the contact with their family has vanished. After being in an isolated stage in the relationship, the person starts to believe it is good for them and the condition
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