Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
A secret I felt like I couldn’t tell anyone because of the fear that if I told my whole family would hate me. I know what a terrible feeling it is to have to hide from the truth. To have the fear of being judged for someone else’s actions. Melinda had to try to turn invisible and ignore people laughing t her. She had to go through the struggle of a home, school, and social life.
People are tempted and forced to do things that they could never imagine or believe themselves doing. Believe it or not, it can change your overall demeanor and personality. In order to relieve stress, people will do crazy things such as disobeying the law, drugs, or killing one another, adults especially. We would not want death to be a solution in any situation. In conclusion, In the novel “A Long way Gone, memoirs of a boy soldier” by Ishmael Beah, told a story about how adults broke down a dramatical time of crisis which commonly related to the way the children represented themselves and their overall social aspect which lied within their hands.
The glass castle by Jeannette Walls is a story of a dysfunctional family which does not conform to the norm of society. And through this their children suffer due to their unconventional methods “Mom and Dad liked to make a big point about never surrendering to fear or to prejudice or to the narrow-minded conformist sticks-in-the-mud who tried to tell everyone else what was proper" Jeannetee's parents always thought the "normal" was an unacceptable way to live. They stressed this idea and it applies to their lives throughout the entire book. The adult used this idea as an excuse for whenever they did not have a home or food to eat. But it is through this that we can the maturity and desire the children show to rise above from their problems.
They may have feelings of loss or guilt about the father not being in the home. The child may feel responsible for the parent’s leaving the home. Children sometimes accept blame for things going wrong at home when they really should not. While researching the literature on children from single-parent homes and juvenile delinquency some of the same factors presented regarding delinquent behavior. The literature also reports that without stability in their lives these children are at risk to be victims as well as perpetrators of violence.
Due to her domineering presence this meant that any chance that child A’s mother had of being able to fulfil her role as the primary carer was undermined and must have caused great stress and tension within the family unit. This is picked up on by the child who will often display negative behaviour just before a home visit in the hope that care staff will cancel it. This would remove the burden of saying she doesn’t want to go herself which she feels would be like rejecting her family. This finally leads me to the grandfather who would have been the only male to have been involved in child A’s development but he appears to have taken a very minor role and chose to stay in the background letting his domineering wife pull the family strings. This meant again that child A had no dominant male role model in her life and reinforced the grandmother’s matriarchal role.
At home, he lived in fear of his mother and resented his father for not helping him. His siblings, at the insistence of his mother, often joined in abusing him. Dave Pelzer had every reason to develop into a product of nurture. After entering the foster care program, Dave Pelzer did not know how to behave in society. He defied his foster parents rules and go in trouble at school.
She says that children from divorce family lose faith in marriage and are unable to make any relationship in their social life or in society. As her research moves ahead, she augers divorce among parents creates insecurity and makes child feel insecure when he or she other children with their parents happy and love bonding among themselves makes them insecure from inside. Third Thoughts on Divorce," National Review, Vol. 54, March 25, 2002, p. 50. Copyright © 2002 by National Review.
While this scenario might be true in some cases, it is only a stereotype against teen parents. It is important for other teens and adults to understand different types of teen parents in order to avoid stereotypes and discrimination against teen parents. The teen parent who is no longer seen at school after she has had her baby is known as the drop out parent. A drop out mother loses a lot after leaving school. She loses friends, self-esteem, and most importantly an education.
Since then Julia was doing poorly in school and her behavior was changing, her grandmother decided to put her in some kind of treatment hoping her parents would join too. Julia’s behavior became worst and worst. She was starting to act out at home by refusing to do chores or homework, talking back and slamming doors. According to the author, “This sense of herself as bad, as well as her lack of trust in others, was in danger of becoming entrenched internal working