Children are hindered by these kinds of schools, teachers and peers lay a big role in the children’s lives. Some teachers are there for the income it will bring into their house hold and not the well-being of the child and students are pressued by their peers into thinking that education is lame and for losers. In most cases this is what children of low income go through but not all. Many may not realize that the surroundings of children may sometimes affect their future. Being raised in a low income area surrounded by people living the same lifestyle as you as if struggling is the norm of society.
It is not that they demand too much from their kids but they expect too little. Parents try so hard to provide their children’s needs to make them happy and become their kid’s best friend that they forget about being a real parent. A parent who knows what is best for their child should not be afraid to say “no”, “The mistake that many parents make today is not that they’re too strict but rather too lenient”. They should discipline and set limits to consumption and teach their children the value of a
A common stereotype is that the poor, uneducated parent isn’t going to be involved with their child’s progress and school activities. This is based on the assumption that these families are uneducated, and therefore will not be interested in their child’s education. However, other factors are not thought of. Some of these immigrant families cannot participate in PTO meetings because they are working long hours in our agriculture fields, getting home late and having to still help with homework, cook dinner and get their children to bed. These families do not work a typical 9-5, this does not mean that they are not involved with their children’s school.
The Price of Education One thing that many people do not think about when choosing to acquire an education is the effect it may have on their relationships with friends and family. For some, there may be no change in the family dynamic, but others may feel the need to distance themselves from their families if they deem their family intellectually inferior or a hindrance to their goals of academic success. Richard Rodriguez took the approach that it was indeed necessary to isolate himself from his family in order to attain his educational goals. Bell hooks takes a completely opposite approach to her education. She feels it necessary to maintain a strong grasp of her roots and a strong relationship with her family.
Where I come from people who are in poverty are on welfare and they seem to work the system just so they do not have to work, but now after watching the video it has definitely opened up my eyes to what is really going on. Most people can’t help their situation especially where I am from because there are not many jobs available. Now I do understand that they have the choice to finish school or maybe no depending on their family situation. But if they are not able at the time they should at least go get their GED. Sometimes even having that may not get you a good enough job to provide for your family.
If you really want to stop kids from getting into gangs, the parents just have to support their children and spend time with them to see how they’re doing. If children know they have someone who is going to support them and who cares for them, they may not have to go to the streets and rely on them to survive just to live another day. Like the saying “Every man has good woman behind them” if every kid had good family supporting them everyone’s lives would be much easier. As adults we should understand as we get older there are more responsibilities and things for us to do, but that doesn’t mean that parents don’t support us any more because we’re kids and we are still learning to become adults. (McHugh pg 166) Until we get to the age of not being treated like a child, we won’t need their guidance to make sure that we stay on the right path and are being the best people we can be.
Lastly, the fathers expectations of two characters does not align with the mothers, yet in one piece of literature the mother expected exactly what the father wished. The feeling of not conforming to societal and parental expectations and not being appreciated condemns youth into believing they are worthless and negatively affects their outlook on life. “Brother Dear” and “A Cap for Steve” both deal with the raw issue of parents not accepting children’s ambitions in life. The two main characters have different goals yet both goals resembled the life that they wish to live at that time. Greg, from the short story “Brother Dear,” does not desire to attend university and become a man of business yet that is all his father wants for him.
Abigail's shrewd behavior is most likely from growing up an orphan and never acquiring a parent's unconditional love. According to the online article The Effects of Parents on a Child's Psychological Development a child who receives minimal love from a parent are more likely to develop into an adult with lower self-worth, feelings of inadequacy, limiting beliefs and insecurity which can result in suspicion and jealousy in relationships. Although Abigail was taken in by her Uncle he was far too interested in the way he was perceived by the community to care about Abigail at all "…now when some good respect is rising for me in the parish, you compromise my very character. I have given you a home, child, I have put clothes upon your back…" The absence of a parent figure in Abigail's life have made it oblige to look after herself when something has gone awry. In the midst of taking care of herself Abigail had an affair with John Proctor who gave her a sense of security and belonging which she wasn't able to receive from Reverend Parris.
Some would think that they will miss their families and relationships and most of all, love. But the people in Utopia have never experienced any of these. They were brought up in conditioning centers and feel that parents and family are primitive. The mere sound of the word annoys them. Monogamy is discouraged by the utopian society and considered improper “Four months of Henry Foster, without having another man…why, he’d be furious if he knew…” This restrains people from getting too emotionally involved and putting their loved one’s needs before the society’s needs.
Especially with foster children, foster children are always treated like they aren’t smart. People don’t push foster children to have high expectations for them to succeed. Children just believe what people are telling them and not being able to have the confidence to prove them wrong. (Spark Action) Most children don’t even have any knowledge about college or even crosses their mind. This is because they go home to home, that they feel they won’t be in a place to worry about that.