They may not do it on purpose but whether they realize it or not, it can destroy their family. Fathers should not make their job too much of a priority because it upsets and affects the female parent, a father’s presence helps children’s development, and it can be bad for the fathers health. The biggest problem mothers have with overworked fathers is the lack of attention showed to the child by the father. “We have a one year old who misses his daddy as much as I do.” (healthboards.com). This was written by a female parent on healthboards website.
Thursday Lunch Unfolding personal issues while growing up may be a tough role to ones’ self. In the reading, “Thursday Lunch”, from the book Distant View of a Minaret by Alifa Rifaat, the psychology of the main character seemed to have no sympathy for herself. It was on a Thursday morning, where she usually travels from her city to the other side of Zamalek to visit her mother, and in accordance, have lunch with her to catch up with each others lives. The main character had just celebrated her fiftieth birthday, but wasn't sure if "celebration" was the correct term for someone who has grown quite emotional during her marriage life and the upbringing of her own children. For example when Kareem, her husband, and the family's servant Attiyat, immediately left the house to perform the tasks for the day ahead, the main character finds her in tears.
She is trying to explain to her son some months after leaving her husband and Christopher that she is not a very good mother. She says that she is not a ‘pacient person’ like Christopher’s father. This letter reveals that her writing style is somewhat like Christopher’s, in that she often writes in long yet simplistic sentences. Unlike Christopher though, she is capable of describing her emotions. She recognises that she got angry and upset because she was unable to handle Christopher’s behaviour when they went shopping at Christmas.
Whenever I needed to schedule a doctor’s appointment, my dad always made me do it for myself. It bothered me that my dad would not help me with certain things. I felt as if I had matured way too fast. Looking back at it I realize I am more mature than most people my age, but this is a good thing. Meg goes through a similar situation when they must save Charles Wallace.
The story beginning in this way sets a tone and an understanding to the reader that Joyce may be suffering from a form of mental illness. She seems to need more help than the other ‘new-hires,’ she works at a much slower pace, and she seems to be very awkward in social situations. Joyce is asked about her ‘love-life’ while eating lunch with her co-workers. Most people would respond to questions about their love-life with an answer that is socially acceptable. Joyce however does not; she states, “I would marry my brother in an instant, though he is sinister and disrespectful.” In society, it is illegal to have
These undertakings that are normally a hassle for any person almost appear to be brushed off by Ma ‘Dear, as she then describes her healthy eating lifestyle. She describes her past and praises her attractiveness and physical figure growing up. At this point, you stop to feel sympathy for her and ruminate along with her as she goes. She talks about her late husband and how much she misses him dearly. She speaks about not being able to have kids and how men would attempt to flatter her but she would repeatedly reject them.
Since her mother spends her greater part of her time on Stan instead of using some of her off-duty hours on Annabelle, Annabelle lacks her mother’s attention. She just wants acceptance for actions. At home she feels overlooked and in the school she fades in the crowd. She is just an ordinary girl nobody really notices. Annabelle is having a hard time accepting the fact that her father and mother aren’t together anymore and her father has been replaced with Stan.
It is other factors such as age and location that contribute to the relationship and determine the level of closeness. Emily’s lack of emotion towards her mother can be attributed to a number of issues in her youth. Since Emily was born, her mother had been working diligently to support the family. To make matters worse, she was only nineteen when Emily was born. Her husband left early on in Emily’s life and her mother was forced to leave her with friends or send her to day care.
In the text we are provided with many feelings, for instance the relationship between the narrator and his mother Kay. The narrator doesn’t like his mother, he think all she says, and has told him is probably bullshit. The conversations between them is awkward, and the narrator think she forces herself, to bright up her voice, and ask about his life, like she forces herself to be a reasonable parent, and the Narrator reply with simple and brief sentences. It’s not only the narrator who hate his mother, it also seems like the mother doesn’t care about him. For instance, she is looking forward to the moment when the narrator can be fending for himself, and when she realize its Saturday she quickly tells him he can’t be in the house because Dan is coming.
The ‘disease’ causes him great embarrassment and discomfort when he is around people and his Mother’s attitude towards it doesn’t help him. Her voice repeatedly interrupts the narrative of the story. While on holiday with his friend Michael and his family, Neil feels like he has to hide his condition. Instead of having fun, Neil finds refuge with homeowner Mrs Wan (a former duchess) who encourages him to feel better about himself and he finally gains enough confidence to go with Michael and do the things that normal boys of his age do. In the opening paragraph of the story, the author makes it clear how much Neil depends on his mother.