Furthermore I will prove that this system is not efficient and can lead to further problems as children mature in age. My first premise is that physical rewards such as sweets, money and prizes do not alter a child’s behaviour. When used, the reward system only lasts for a short period of time until the child stops receiving these rewards (Grille, N.D). This is because when children are bribed with rewards for good behaviour, they soon learn how to manipulate adults so that they receive rewards in return (Grille, N.D). “On the other hand children also begin to believe that when they receive a reward for stopping an unacceptable behaviour, they should be given something when they treat people with respect” (Hall, 2009).
Also, as they are just children, they are too young to put the money into good use, and can end up being invested in things which could harm themselves, and people around them. In cases of unstable families, when the children are payed for being good and doing well; they feel precious, wanted, special. They feel as if they are making their family proud, and themselves proud. They feel a sense of achievement and accomplishment. Nevertheless, there is a question of who will pay?
Sometime the issue is straightforward, for example a carer stealing from an individual’s purse, but at other times it is more difficult to address. This is because very often the perpetrator can be someoneʹs son or daughter, or age prejudice means that other people assume it is not happening or that the older person is to blame. Two common issues that come to our attention are (a) sons or daughters attempting to justify their actions on the basis that they are simply obtaining their inheritance in advance and (b) the extensive misuse of Powers of Attorney. • Institutional
Between the ages of one and three, children begin to assert their independence, by walking away from their mother, picking which toy to play with, and making choices about what they like to wear, to eat, etc. If children in this stage are encouraged and supported in their increased independence, they become more confident and secure in their own ability to survive in the world. If children are criticized, overly controlled, or not given the opportunity to assert themselves, they begin to feel inadequate in their ability to survive, and may then become overly dependent upon others, lack self-esteem, and
May use bribery such as toys, gifts and food as a means to get child to behave There are some effects to this type of parenting such as: Lack self-discipline Sometimes have poor social skills May be self-involved and demanding May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance Since these parents have few requirements for mature behavior, children may lack skills in social settings. While they may be good at interpersonal communication, they lack other important skills such as sharing. We know through experience that permissive parenting does not work.
According to Sutherland, “Criminal behavior is learned according to the principles of operant conditioning.” These operant behaviors involve the processes of conditioning. In conditioning, criminals may begin stealing little things like gum or pens from a drug store and never get caught. Then they could move on to cd’s and movies. If they continue to not get caught, they may begin to think that stealing is easy, and move on to larger more expensive things such as jewelry or money. If they have been involved in stealing food without being caught, they have been positively reinforced that they have been able to have food to eat.
They will be guided by their desire to obtain the drug even if obtaining the drug means they will have to steal from their own family. Children of an addict may feel abandoned or afraid to trust any adult. Children may be forced to take on adult responsibilities at an early age by needing to care for younger siblings. A parent may feel guilty and wonder what they could have done differently along the way. Society may feel the drug addict caused their own predicament and that it is a waste of government funding to try to help them overcome the addiction.
Spanking may stop the child then and there, but there’s a cost emotionally and cognitively to a child, and over the long run, it doesn’t usually lead to the child learning not to repeat the behavior that resulted in the spanking in the first place. It can also lead to the child learning to behave because of fear, not because of respect. (Cantu) Spanking a child results in them being afraid, and that hitting is the way you handle conflict. Instead, send a message to your child such as, “I love you and I can’t let you do that.” Children can learn best by mimicking their parents’ ability to control themselves, and parents can be models by using calm, firm and neutral discipline” (Cantu). Spanking is a form of abuse that people tend to turn a blind eye to.
This stage is where a child must learn and accept what is and is not allowed and that some of the things that are not allowed could result in a punishment. When children are given the opportunity to use their initiative, for example, by making up a game, greater feelings of security are introduced with their ability to lead others and their sense of initiative is boosted. A dismissive or over controlling attitude or criticism from a carer could cause the child to become under the impression that they are a nuisance to others, making them feel embarrassed and causing them to lack self initiative. During this stage, children tend to ask many questions as they exercise interest and become more curious about their world. If negative responses towards the child’s questions are shown from the parents or carer, then the child may begin to develop feelings of guilt for showing an interest.
Why do kids fear peer pressure? Some kids give in to peer pressure because they want to be liked, to fit in, or because they worry that other kids might make fun of them if they don't go along with the group. Others go along because they are curious to try something new that others are doing. The idea that "everyone's doing it" can influence some kids to leave their better judgment, or their common sense, behind. Making decisions on your own is hard enough, but when other people get involved and try to pressure you one way or another it can be even harder.