She insists that Chinese children know that their parents think of them highly, and criticize them only because they know their kids can achieve high expectations. Hanna Rosin disagrees commenting that “there is no reason to believe that calling your child 'lazy' or 'stupid' or 'worthless' is a better way to motivate her to be good than some other more gentle but persistent mode” (Rosin). She feels that as a parent her job is not to be a harsh critic but to encourage them. Rosin is not concerned with making her children the best but rather with making her children happy and building them up. She states that even when her children give her lopsided, hastily drawn birthday cards, that she praises them as if they
Summary of “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” was written by Professor Amy Chua who is a Chinese mother of two. This article was published January 8th, 2011 in the Wall Street Journal. This article is mainly intended for what Chua refers to as “Western parents.” Amy Chua’s opinion is that these “Western” mothers fail at having successful children unlike Chinese mothers such as herself. According to Chua, Chinese mothers believe that if their child fails it is directed towards their parenting and that they have failed as a parent. Chua listed all the things she doesn’t allow her children to do, and she believes that it is correlated to how successful her children will be.
Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior The article ”Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” focuses on the fact that chinese children are turning out to be so stereotypically successful. Amy Chua points out that there is a big difference between Chinese mothers and Western parents and the way they raise their kids: ”What Chinese parents understands is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up.” I think this quote makes a good picture of how she thinks of herself as a parent and the Western people as parents. To make her point clear she uses a lot of pathos and a lot of examples from experiences with herself and her two daughters, Louisa and Sofia.
The first difference is that Western parents worries a lot of their children’s wellbeing in the form of their self-esteem than Asian parents does. Asian mothers believe that the worst possible thing you could do to a child’s self-esteem is to let them give up and fail. The second difference Lu Chin displays is that Asian parents believe that their children owe them everything and must use their lives to repay and obey them. The third difference originates in Asian parents who put up very strict and firm rules for their children to follow. The rules are not made to harm the children’s childhood, for an example like Chinese daughters who can't have boyfriends in high school and can’t participate in sleep-away camps, but it simply
In Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” and Hanna Rosin’s “Mother Inferior”, both want what’s best for their kids, but their parenting styles are on opposite sides of the spectrum. They both want their children to be successful and reward successes, but for Chua, the end goal is to be successful and for Rosin, the end goal is to have happiness. This contrast can be seen through their views on the child’s autonomy, their parenting techniques, and what their child’s goal in life should be. Amy Chua describes a child as inherently un-driven blank slate. A parent must intervene and project priorities and goals to the child.
No family is the same, we run our houses differently, and parents have different ways on how to treat their children. However in Chinese Cinderella told/written by Adeline Yen Mah. Niang (Adeline’s stepmother) treats her stepchildren like they do not exist. A typical American family compared to Adeline’s family has different family structures and different roles of the family matron. First of all, the American family structure compared to Adeline’s family structure have some similarities.
Essay; “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua posted in The Wall Street Journal; January 8, 2011 is an educational philosophy of Chinese mothers and Western parenting. Amy Chua, a Chinese mother of two daughters, gives her opinion of how children should be pushed into working hard, to achieve, and be the best. “Nothing is fun until you’re good at it” – this is Amy Chua technique and opinion on how to motivate her children, to ensure that they achieves to the maximum of their abilities. But the dilemma lies, when the question of educational philosophy contrast to the western worlds. Some studies show that Chinese parents spend about 10 times as long as Western parents on academic activities with their children on a daily basis.
Why Chinese Mothers are Superior There are numerous different ways to raise your child, and the “Western” parents often wonder how the Chinese can get so successful kids and in this article Amy Chua, who is a professor at Yale Law School and author of “Day of Empire” and "World on Fire: How Exporting Free Market Democracy Breeds Ethnic Hatred and Global Instability." explains how the difference in the Chinese and Western methods of raising your child. When I write Chinese- and Western parents it’s in a very loose way, just like Amy Chua writes in the article. Amy Chua has two girls, Louisa and Sophia, they live in New Haven. She comes with examples throughout the book on how she raised her two girls.
Clearly, this shows that studies prove that due to ‘mediocre’ parents having less involvement in their children’s social life, will lead their children to making immature decisions that they may regret. Amy Chua, like most Chinese parents, states “Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences.”(2011). This allows parents to become more involved and aware of what’s going on in the social lives of their children. In doing so, strict parents make sure they lead their children in the correct pathway in their social life in order to get a step closer to becoming successful. Most importantly, Chinese parents set
Gish Jen seems to describe Sophie in a way that makes it appear that the Grandmother is actually helping with the raising of the child. However, John and Natalie do not approve of her methods. The Grandmother describes the child as “wild” and “not Chinese” (Jen 105). It is unorthodox that a secondary character is so “round.” Sophie is physically described as mostly Chinese except for her brown skin which seemed to be odd due to the fact that it is nowhere between John and Natalie’s (Jen 106). Gish Jen takes a great deal of time to describe John and Natalie Shea’s family dynamic.