We So Seldom Look On Love, Barbara Gowdy

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The purpose of Barbara Gowdy's "We So Seldom Look On Love" is to discuss what defines normalcy in our society, and uses the theme of wisdom versus naivety to demonstrate this. Naivety is the early part of her transition, and wisdom comes as she discovers more about herself, the culture she is a part of, and the world around her. The opening passage begins with a wise description of what it means to die, to transition, and the final passage bookends it with similar language and the air of someone resigned to what they have come to be. Gowdy challenges normality and conformity in this work using a variety of elements, both concrete and metaphoric. In the first line of the passage, the speaker addresses her own naivety. She recognizes the fact that, as a child and through her adolescence, she truly did not have any sort of grasp on the fact that there was anything wrong with her conduct. She could recognize that there were things that were “dark and forbidden” (329), which indicates that she had a basic understanding of the concept of taboo. This passage also indicates naivety and lack of understanding as a crutch, or coping mechanism, when the speaker states, “I’m not bad-looking, so if offering my body to dead men is a crime, I’d like to know who the victim is” (329) She makes an interesting point here about the nature of how subjective normality is, and how naïve she is as a person trying to cope with the feeling of alienation. She is indignant. She states, “I couldn’t see that I was doing anything wrong. I still can’t,” (329) which aligns with her initial naivety. She can recognize that what she was doing was wrong on a societal level, but she cannot fathom her behavior as a wrongdoing on a personal moral level. What’s interesting about this particular short story is the “challenge presented to feminine ideals, concepts of normality, theology of the perverse,
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