Keeping my emotions in check will help me to think clearly and guide constructive communication; trying to dominate the resolution process will only frustrate the opposition. I will constructively listen to the thoughts and ideas of others and consider them honestly instead of trying to have my own way all of the time. My goal is to defeat my attitude of being a perfectionist. The key is being able to allow myself to make and except the mistakes of others. I do not have to be the best at everything.
These quotations are very relevant to me, especially because I am a very expressive or kind of a talkative person. These reminded me that even how good or fancy I talk or say something, without backing it up with a clear action it is pointless. That is why it is better to just do more and talk less like the old saying tell us ‘Walk the talk’. Or the more I talk about something the more I should put a better effort in doing it. You would only prove a point if you back you words with definite and clear actions.
With a fight to win mentality, it makes us deny information that upholds the other side's views and say what will benefit our views. Tannen uses various evidence to support the main idea. She says that this type of culture causes people to distort the truth and causes us to waste time” fighting with each other rather than fighting for a cause.”(Tannen) “Balance, Debate, Listening to both sides. Who could question these noble American traditions? Yet today, these principles have been distorted.
No it is never easy but sometimes you can fake it till you make it. I try to look them in the eyes and speak clearly and not only show up my good qualities but let them know I am open to criticism and critiques and want to learn, that I am not all high and mighty type. What skills will make you stand out? I believe it is my ability to communicate and how fast I learn and catch on. My confidence and ability to get along well with others seems to help.
This question does not suggest that your audience is stupid or uneducated. As we saw in Chapter 1, there is a great deal of confusion today about such matters as free will, truth, knowledge, opinion, and morality. Many intelligent and educated people have fallen victim to ideas and attitudes that cripple their creative and critical faculties. In many cases, your audience will appreciate your insights only if you first help them get beyond their misconceptions. Is Your Audience’s Perspective Likely to Be Narrow?
Exercise 1.1 Specific ways I need to change to be a more helpful person is to always look for the other person first and not just for myself. I have a tendency to put myself first instead of others and I really need to work on this quality. I have great listening skills and make eye contact but I don’t move around when I talk so I feel that would make me a more helpful person also because they would not be bored. Exercise 1.2 If I saw a professional with these labels I would think great they were except for the shrink because might make you think down on yourself instead of there to help you with your problems. These people are all very special and help to provide help in so many ways to help to get a job, a home, medical assistance, to just help with everyday living.
I realize that these changes will not come easy but well worth it in the end. The first major change would be a paradigm shift in how I view communication in general and its connection to listening. I now know that listening is an action word and there are so many things I can do to help the listening process be more fruitful for each party involved. I have come to the realization that communicating is a give and take relationship and not something that is all about me. I will no longer tune people out if I disagree with them but I will truly listen and ask questions.
I was scared with what we could do myself, but I have a way we could make people not as scared. We could educate them, and if they still don’t like it, then they have a real reason not to like it than not knowing about
People encounter different situations in their lives; however, they do have one similarity. No matter what type of situation it is, it is necessary that we know what we are doing and that we make the right choice. In many cases, people tend to have fun at the moment and not consider the consequences, which often cause them to regret after realizing what they have done. This is quite common among people because there is this part in human minds called Id tat tends to seek for pleasure. However, there is also another part called Ego that works contrary to what the Id does.
My judgments are my own and it’s unique. I can’t predict when it happens and when to shut it down, just like my heart beats. I thought this way because whenever I am are faced with someone or something new, I don’t necessarily think over my thoughts to see if it’s reasonable or if I should not think these thoughts. I was questioning how Gladwell will be able to educate and teach someone to control their judgments and first impressions because everyone is different and their thoughts are of course not the same. However, I do understand how learning to control my snap judgments and first impressions is important because it gives people a second chance to prove who they are but everyone is entitled to their own judgment and not everyone has to agree with