She insists that Chinese children know that their parents think of them highly, and criticize them only because they know their kids can achieve high expectations. Hanna Rosin disagrees commenting that “there is no reason to believe that calling your child 'lazy' or 'stupid' or 'worthless' is a better way to motivate her to be good than some other more gentle but persistent mode” (Rosin). She feels that as a parent her job is not to be a harsh critic but to encourage them. Rosin is not concerned with making her children the best but rather with making her children happy and building them up. She states that even when her children give her lopsided, hastily drawn birthday cards, that she praises them as if they
According to Chua there are three differences that cause the Chinese mothers to be “superior.” First, Chinese parents don’t care as much about their kid’s self-esteem as Western mothers do. Second, Chinese parents assert that any goal their kids reach is all thanks to their parents. Lastly, Chinese parents are sure that they always know what is best for them. Western parents might see some of these as unacceptable, and even in some ways abusive, but according to Chua, these are the things that make Chinese mothers have such successful children. One of the things Chinese mothers seem to be very good at compared to
Clearly, this shows that studies prove that due to ‘mediocre’ parents having less involvement in their children’s social life, will lead their children to making immature decisions that they may regret. Amy Chua, like most Chinese parents, states “Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences.”(2011). This allows parents to become more involved and aware of what’s going on in the social lives of their children. In doing so, strict parents make sure they lead their children in the correct pathway in their social life in order to get a step closer to becoming successful. Most importantly, Chinese parents set
“Maxine’s academic success is a stumbling block to her search for a place in America.” How far do you agree with this statement? Maxine’s search for an identity in America is an ardours process due to the difficulties of negotiating the demands of her Chinese and American culture which at times juxtaposes each other. She uses the knowledge she has acquired through her education to mediate the demands of her dual heritage. While initially her academic success results in her displacement in the Chinese household, it eventually becomes a mean for the matured Maxine to form a powerful voice to establish her presence in her family and America. Through her success academically, it gives her the confidence to establish a powerful voice which becomes the first step towards articulating a self and finding a presence in the American institution.
The OCP can help families to achieve a higher living standards. Despite all the positive effects OCP has contributed , it has also created a lot of negative social impacts. Women were forced to have abortions as late as their ninth month pregnancy during their second successful pregnancy. The Chinese society much prefers having a baby
Anne is very intelligent; she is a top student and work very hard. The different educational systems also contribute to its popularity too. Chinese readers have a very competitive school life which is quite different from Anna, and they want to get free from it. Anne, who is free spirited, has become a “representative” to fight against hierarchy system and struggle for freedom. The author concludes that love is the theme of the story.
They can scold them and call them names just to motivate their kids to meet up to the parents high expectations. However, the western mother is very relaxed in her way of teaching and does not really care too much about their children’s assignments or exam results. Their most common phrase is just, ‘Work harder next time.’ But, their teaching methods can make the child very fond of learning as their parents don’t seem to have high expectations towards them. They might be happier, too. If
Lu Chin is arguing for the Asian model of bringing up children with arguments such as most Asian children receives a better result of their education than the Western children. Throughout this essay Lu Chin visualises her opinion on the matter of which model of upbringing is the best, Asian or Western. One statement Lu Chin uses is that Western parents will only make their children do their best therefore it is the children who are in control, where Asian parents demand only the best and failing or coming in second is not an option. Lu Chin lays out three differences between Asian parents and Western parents. The first difference is that Western parents worries a lot of their children’s wellbeing in the form of their self-esteem than Asian parents does.
The ways of the people of China are shifting as the years pass. With Confucius in mind the women used to be submissive, amiable and quiet while the father was the strict head of the household. Today both parents are usually bringing in an income and instead of being beaten or scolded the children are taught how to internalize how any bad behavior has impacted others. It is a changing world and even though some of China’s culture is changing, much of it still remains the same. The education system of China is state run/ supplied and mandatory to all children of any gender, nationality or race.
In a comparison between Chinese and American youth it is seen that their goals are much the same and their motivation behind these goals all have to do with the universal need to be nurtured and loved in a family environment. In a country like China where tradition and family is so highly regarded it would be thought that young adults would be likely to follow in their parents footsteps. But in interviews with Wang Xiaolei, Ben Wu, and Lu Dong it is made clear that their life and career choices were very much their own. In the interview with Wang he even says, “My father, my mother- both useless” (Young and Restless in China). And Ben Wu says “So I want to learn how Chinese conduct business, what's the best opportunity in what industry” (Young and Restless in China).