The Diffrent Nature of Conflict

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The different nature of conflict John K. Anderson Everest University Fundamentals of Interpersonal Communication-149 The different nature of conflict The lose-lose orientation assumes that conflict results in losses for everyone and can be unhappy and dangerous in most relationships. For example; if a man sees his girlfriend with another man being intimate he will not confront them, but walk away instead and confront her later when she is by herself and maybe beat around the bush to ask the question. It is because they are trying to avoid conflict in their life and relationships. Win-lose orientation assumes that whenever that person is being confrontational they are always shooting to win at all expense to the other person. They will see conflict as a win-lose situation. It’s like a win gain or you lose the gain attitude. This type of orientation is cultivated in cultures that place values on individualism, self-assertion, and competition. Partners who disagree about whether to move out of town can adopt a win-lose orientation. For ex; ‘It’s only going to be Red Lobster or Olive Garden tonight for dinner or we are not going to eat anything” The win-lose orientation almost guaranties that you won’t work to find or create a mutually acceptable solutions, the other potential disadvantages to win-lose approach to conflict. The person who loses may assume the role of martyr and frustration and anger in those that are around them. Win-win orientations assume that there are usably ways to resolves differences so that everyone gains. They sometimes put themselves last to make everyone else happy to avoid conflict and unnecessary arguments. It’s like” how can I make this situation better so everyone can get along and be peaceful” when partners adopt the win-win views of conflict, they often discover compromises that satisfy enough of each person’s needs to
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