She insists that Chinese children know that their parents think of them highly, and criticize them only because they know their kids can achieve high expectations. Hanna Rosin disagrees commenting that “there is no reason to believe that calling your child 'lazy' or 'stupid' or 'worthless' is a better way to motivate her to be good than some other more gentle but persistent mode” (Rosin). She feels that as a parent her job is not to be a harsh critic but to encourage them. Rosin is not concerned with making her children the best but rather with making her children happy and building them up. She states that even when her children give her lopsided, hastily drawn birthday cards, that she praises them as if they
Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior The article ”Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” focuses on the fact that chinese children are turning out to be so stereotypically successful. Amy Chua points out that there is a big difference between Chinese mothers and Western parents and the way they raise their kids: ”What Chinese parents understands is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up.” I think this quote makes a good picture of how she thinks of herself as a parent and the Western people as parents. To make her point clear she uses a lot of pathos and a lot of examples from experiences with herself and her two daughters, Louisa and Sofia.
Clearly, this shows that studies prove that due to ‘mediocre’ parents having less involvement in their children’s social life, will lead their children to making immature decisions that they may regret. Amy Chua, like most Chinese parents, states “Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences.”(2011). This allows parents to become more involved and aware of what’s going on in the social lives of their children. In doing so, strict parents make sure they lead their children in the correct pathway in their social life in order to get a step closer to becoming successful. Most importantly, Chinese parents set
In Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” and Hanna Rosin’s “Mother Inferior”, both want what’s best for their kids, but their parenting styles are on opposite sides of the spectrum. They both want their children to be successful and reward successes, but for Chua, the end goal is to be successful and for Rosin, the end goal is to have happiness. This contrast can be seen through their views on the child’s autonomy, their parenting techniques, and what their child’s goal in life should be. Amy Chua describes a child as inherently un-driven blank slate. A parent must intervene and project priorities and goals to the child.
According to Chua there are three differences that cause the Chinese mothers to be “superior.” First, Chinese parents don’t care as much about their kid’s self-esteem as Western mothers do. Second, Chinese parents assert that any goal their kids reach is all thanks to their parents. Lastly, Chinese parents are sure that they always know what is best for them. Western parents might see some of these as unacceptable, and even in some ways abusive, but according to Chua, these are the things that make Chinese mothers have such successful children. One of the things Chinese mothers seem to be very good at compared to
Dylan LeVine Professor Amber Day LCS 121A February 9, 2012 Yin and Yang Identity is an aspect of one’s life that must be formed on one’s own and not solely on the words or actions of others. The people around us can help build our identity, but is us who have to truly find ourselves. Two Kinds is narrated by Jing Mei Woo, a young girl whose mother pushes her to become a “prodigy child”. At first she liked the idea because she would be able to make her mother happy, but later gets locked in a struggle over her identity. People rely heavily on the way others perceive them; however your true identity is formed primarily on how you perceive yourself.
Much of the Chinese values moved with them to America. In the movie Mulan, all the parents want for their daughter, Mulan, is to bring honor to the family. But Mulan is not your typical Chinese girl; she has her own opinions, and can’t hide who she really is. (Mulan) In the story “Two Kinds”, Jing-mei’s mother and father want her to be a prodigy in order to make a life for herself. At first Jing-mei liked the idea, but after all of her attempts and fails she wanted to live a normal American life.
Essay; “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” The article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua posted in The Wall Street Journal; January 8, 2011 is an educational philosophy of Chinese mothers and Western parenting. Amy Chua, a Chinese mother of two daughters, gives her opinion of how children should be pushed into working hard, to achieve, and be the best. “Nothing is fun until you’re good at it” – this is Amy Chua technique and opinion on how to motivate her children, to ensure that they achieves to the maximum of their abilities. But the dilemma lies, when the question of educational philosophy contrast to the western worlds. Some studies show that Chinese parents spend about 10 times as long as Western parents on academic activities with their children on a daily basis.
The first difference is that Western parents worries a lot of their children’s wellbeing in the form of their self-esteem than Asian parents does. Asian mothers believe that the worst possible thing you could do to a child’s self-esteem is to let them give up and fail. The second difference Lu Chin displays is that Asian parents believe that their children owe them everything and must use their lives to repay and obey them. The third difference originates in Asian parents who put up very strict and firm rules for their children to follow. The rules are not made to harm the children’s childhood, for an example like Chinese daughters who can't have boyfriends in high school and can’t participate in sleep-away camps, but it simply
THe World State doesn't want people to give their people responsibility because they want, “Stability, No civilization without social stability. No social stability without individual stability,” (Huxley, 42). The World State doesn’t give the people responsibility to because with responsibility, there is a need to fulfill the responsibility and stability is threatened when the responsibility isn’t. So the World State gives jobs that they know will be fulfilled and then when the job is done they are set loose like children. Despite the lack of responsibility, there are women who are not freemartins that, “did not forget their contraceptive precautions by the regulations,” (Huxley, 77).