Stress is defined as “the process by which we perceive and respond to certain events, called stressors, that we praise as threatening or challenging” (Myers, 2012, page 275). Stress is about an individual or is personal and is affected by the choices the person makes as an individual. The stress that is bad for you deprives you the ability to experience joy, happiness, enjoy life and who you are. That is why it is very important to recognize symptoms of stress and identify ways to bring the stress under control. The good stress is the kind that will help keep you motivated to be productive and be able to achieve the goals we set for ourselves.
The therapeutic relationship between me as an emerging counsellor and a client who is grieving can only be healthy when I possess a keen level of awareness about my personal experiences with grief and loss. It is inevitable that I will face and experience more losses as I move through life as change and loss are part of the pattern of human existence. How these losses will impact on me I cannot answer for sure! While I am fortunate enough to know and understand many of the theories of grief and loss I firmly believe the essence of my work lies in my humanity. I cannot give meaning to a client’s grief, but I can facilitate the formation of a therapeutic relationship that enables a client to find the meaning for them.
Horace states that “Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant”. This brings up the question, is adversity good for a person? Horace is saying that adversity helps develop a person and their character. In a time of hardship, people need to find their inner strength to overcome a situation. Adversity happens to everyone in life; some worse than others.
Stress comes from any situation in which we feel frustrated, angry or anxious. Anxiety, on the other hand, comes from apprehension or fear. Stress and Anxiety, in a nutshell, stem from our bodies reaction to fear or change. Those who suffer from stress can understand their condition and find resolution in the mediums of therapy or changing certain aspects to their daily lives. Anxiety on the other hand is not something that can be treated easily as there is the potential to have larger psychological or physicals reasons for its manifestation.
Rogers also believed that people are inherently good and creative. However, he thought that people could become destructive when a poor self concept (how one sees oneself in comparison to others) or external constraints override the valuing process. Rogers thought that for a client to experience therapeutic change, certain conditions had to be present within the relationship. These conditions he called “The Core Conditions”, which were empathy, congruence (genuineness) and unconditional positive regard (respect). When Rogers talked about empathy, he meant the therapist should continually try to understand the client from their point of view (enter into their world to get a sense of how it feels)
We’ll act how we expect other people to act, and in doing so we aren’t true to ourselves. Low self-esteem can lead to anxiety attacks. In large group settings, we may believe that everyone is focused on ourselves. This makes it impossible to relax and easier to make mistakes. (Perera).
For example some things are able to control is our opinions which result to the emotions we build that result in our over all reaction. We also have control and power over the way we feel, to achieve happiness, and peace in our life by altering our mind in every situation in life that we come across. Epictetus also explains the difference between good and evil through philosophy in stating that good is what we desire and as for evil is something to be avoided because it is
This is based on assumptions that people automatically seek places of safety and security and to fulfil their desires they crave or grasp things, treating them as rewards, which in turn leads to further suffering. Based on the ‘four noble truths’ (Batchelor, 1997), the mindfulness approach creates the need to focus on our suffering in order to identify how distress is formulated in desire. It is the through the release of this desire and suffering that brings peace. This practice therefore must be repeated until it becomes effortless. Also distress is not considered to be a single or unique experience.
Mad Stressful World Being angry all the time gets us all tensed up and stressed out. Stress increases risk of heart attacks and other health problems. Dianne Hales is right we need to learn to how to control our anger and find the source of the problem not blame other people. Stress varies person to person, so find what helps you be a more serene person. Instead of listening or watching things that get us all worked up, we should do something that makes us feel calmer.
Life has its unexpectancies and we have control over how these unexpectancies take over our emotions. As humans we have the choice to let our emotions take over who we really are. Living in fear of judgment and the little imperfections of our daily life causing us to be unhappy, due to the fact we care more of how others perceive us than our own self. Wayne Coyne’s essay “Creating Our Happiness” and Catherine Royce essay “I Always Have a Choice” both describe the internal human emotions to the fullest extent, and both using techniques such as flashbacks and imagery to portray their concept thoroughly to explain how life is but a choice. As if you were living that situation, feeling their pain, happiness, and thinking