This is a problem because it's distracting instead of emphasizing what I was saying. Like last time, I'm very hard on myself about how I do, but this time I really feel I didn't do even close to a good enough job. The only things I can mention are good eye contact, and I had volume. There was clarity to the speech about what we were trying to share, but my problem areas took away from that clarity. I can't say it's changed from the last speech but I know that in years before I used to be really quiet.
Disappointed as I was I realized its not always the subject as much as it is your form and process that gets the grade I learned to pay more attention to my technique and process. When writing an essay or paper I tend to get nervous, scared and even intimidated. I often question if I’m using correct grammar, punctuations and form. Inexperience usually gets the best of me and I freeze. I remember when writing was fun, but it feels more like a chore to me now then
Introduction In the earlier exercises, I was so focused on understanding course material and different tactics that it actually strayed me away from applying them to my negotiations. Especially in my first two negotiations, I had a tough time incorporating what I knew about BATNA, initial offers, RP and AP; and actually made up those numbers as opposed to using strategy to figure them out. I also had a lot of trouble defining what information I needed out of my partner, which then made coming up with diagnostic questions very difficult. As we continued with the negotiation exercises, I started to get a flow of how to strategize. I started defining my own interests to come up with diagnostic questions, which also helped with defining my BATNA, initial offer, RP and AP.
I was nervous and I didn’t have speaking points so I just decided to read directly from my script. One weakness that I had while delivering this speech was memory, which is one of the classical cannons of rhetoric. I didn’t practice as much as I should so I decided to read directly from my script, since I didn’t remember everything I wrote. Another weakness was pronunciation, I didn’t pronounce some words correctly which led me to pause and re-read it again. Delivering this speech was a little difficult for me since I’m a little shy in front of a group of people.
I need to learn to get use to books that I never imagined me reading because I don’t have a choice but to do it. Also, I would get very lazy to even try to take a glimpse at the text because I’m not use to reading the books the teachers like to read. My last goal is too use context clues. This is not a big deal but I would like to get a little better at it. When I am answering questions about the book, I don’t pay attention to the big clues.
I am always a few tasks ahead of myself in my mind and very often don’t take the time to ask for clarification, or feedback from others to make sure they understand where I am coming from. In the two examples I provided, lack of feedback was definitely a major cause of the misunderstandings. Just a sentence or two in each case from the receiver quantifying the message could have prevented the misunderstandings from occurring. Instead, I was in a hurry to get that easy task off my to-do list and the customer service rep was probably also in a hurry to get on to her next call and her next order. That is the way life seems to be these days in business.
Writing this particular entry actually left me with a good deal of apprehension. So much apprehension, in fact, that I’m posting it late. Like a creeper, I looked at other people’s blogs, uncertain of where I should go with mine, and even then I didn’t really have a grasp on what I was doing. Luckily, I found a way to reduce my apprehension: Uncertainty Reduction Axioms. Structure is my biggest issue with blog posts, and for their one, I’m going to straight up use a premade list.
I can fully appreciate and understand why being a counsellor for a family and/or close friend is not advised. Even though I was playing the role of the listener, my inner self was in a constant tug-of-war between being a friend and keeping a professional step back as required by a listener. I was extremely nervous and realized only when it was too late, that I had forgotten the most basic and yet one of the most important things to mention at the beginning of my session, which was one of the boundaries; how much time we had. Establishing clear ‘boundaries’ with the time and sticking with the ethical code from the start of a session, is fundamental to both Client and Counsellor. “It is reassuring to be able to take for granted that someone who is a counsellor is inevitably a person of integrity and virtue who acts in accordance with an impeccable ethical code”.
It was through these classes and conferences that I got to meet with leaders and focus on outcomes, and initiatives such as retention. The passion and expertise of these leaders as well the conversations I had with them not only, I believe, made me a better leader in practice but they serve as motivation for what I can achieve. 3. Lessons learned that have helped you grow as a leader. I’ve learned to listen attentively to what someone else is saying.
In order for me to get to this conversation with writing started I need to set aside all of my intimidation with writing and need for perfections aside just to get something even written down. What gets written down may not be the greatest, but no one really has a life changing conversation with someone that they just met anyways so my first draft of anything does not really have much high expectations. Once I get past that writing is not intimidating and that I am going to have a conversation with whoever might read this it becomes an easier process and outlook. Previously I’ve always thought of writing as something I always dreaded because it would suck the life out of me and usually bring my grade along with it, but as I have gotten older writing has become a part of my life and something I have changed my perspective on completely in a way that I look at it as something friendly, like a chat with a close friend. While I find myself not upset when I am not writing papers in class, if it were not for writing in general I might have to strain myself to not pick up my phone every five minutes just to send a text message or post