With a rapidly changing body and brain, adolescents seek out the independence they crave, while still not having the capacity or capability to truly be on their own. This can cause a great deal of imbalance within the parent-child relationship (Steinburg, 2008, p. 43). For some parents, adolescence is the first time they have seen any indication that their child is no longer that perfect, sweet baby that they once held in their arms. This often causes confusion, and is concerning to them. It is usually at this time that I will get a phone call from a parent asking for my help in dealing with their “out of control” teenager, and Tracy Freeland is no different.
Their action were overly extreme. Although this transaction from an obedient teen into an independent adult causes problems for many families it has to be done as Poppy Smith in How Can I Let My Children Go states, “ Parental control, so necessary at certain stages of our child's development, can be a hard habit to break, but it must be done. Giving our children-turned-young-adults freedom to make their own decisions is tough for many of
Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
Kids without parents suffer the most, there is no mutual agreement for what's best for the child. The mother would like to have things her way and the father his. They can't combine the sight of each other, even if it means sake of their child. This makes very hard for the child and for the school and for other facilities that has to accommodate for both parents separately. For example “in parent teacher conferences there are two copies of report cards, two of everything because the parents can't agree to share.” This is very sad.
T.D.A 2.1 3.3 Each child will experience different changes in their lives. These are known as transitions and can be as common as starting school to changes of the body, to transitions only some children and young people may experience, such as the seperation of parents to abuse. These transitions will affect children and young people in their development and show in ther behaviour. The move from primary school to secondary school is a transition every child will encounter. It can affect the child in many ways as they can become nervous and anxious resulting in them becoming withdrawn and have a lack of confidence at the thought of a new school, they may be leaving close friendship groups making them upset and feeling alone.
Parent illness and no other relative to take care of the child 5. Abusive relationships between parents 6. Parents using drugs There are lots of changes that the child or young person will experience when coming into care, their emotions and feelings will change, they feel upset and lonely and may feel they have done something wrong, they will feel confused and anxious and not understand why they have been taken away from their family and will not fully understand what is happening to them. It can be a very scary time for them meeting people they don’t know and their new surroundings, there are lots of people involved when a child or young person comes into care which will be very daunting for them especially for a younger child, an older child may not want to co-operate with the social workers or the foster carer’s which will be a very stressful time for all parties. It will take a very long time for a child or young person to be able to trust the carer’s and their family and be able to feel settled in their new home as they may feel like an outsider and do not belong here.
Single mothers and fathers have a hard time raising one child let alone two or three but yet they keep on having child after child. Society’s views on a few things need to change to be able to get the foster care system under control because if families could take care of the kids they had then there would be no problems. I understand there are special circumstances but the number of children in the system is outrageous. I feel like what has led my client to be put into the foster care system is his or her own parents neglect. This could be neglect of just the child or neglect of substances or responsibilities whatever it is they didn’t step up to the plate like they should have when they had they kid and therefore the government did and
As adolescents start to gain independence, understand relationships that work and do not work make it hard for parents to let them grow, but as the adolescent sees it, parents are trying to keep them from self-expression and trying to figure out how they fit into the world around them (Bass, 2009). Media does not help adolescents acknowledge success since the media portrays physical appearance as perfection and possessions as riches causing complicated issues among adolescents (Bass, 2009). As an adult we have all gone through angry days as a teen, but the one thing the author Lyman Bass (2009) explains in the article “Adolescent Anger Management” there are signs that are beyond usual. These signs are when adolescents become defiant by the request of others, is mean to parents and other adults who hold some authority. Another signs are adolescents who are loners, depressed, trouble with expressing emotions, have few friends, and certain events trigger them into violent behaviors.
If parents control their children too much, later they feel ashamed and doubt their abilities. Also, teens loose respect and love toward parents. Moreover, they can become suspicious to the people around; and when these children grow up and become parents by themselves, they will not be able to provide necessary warmth and supportive environment to their children, which will bring up too cold and unfriendly generation.
For some reason the adult child feels as though they have the same rights to the household as their parents do. With this sad reality, comes the enabling parent who has become overly dependent on their young adult emotionally, thus stifling the independence of their child. This is what happens in a co-dependent household. The codependent parent fails to realize that it is the responsibility of the parents to teach their children to teach independence and responsibility. Enabling your adult children will only cripple them.