As a successful professional counselling relationship develops and progresses, according to Pete Sanders the client and counsellor work through “three different stages”. This could be described as beginnings, middles and endings. In the beginning the counsellor shows acceptance, genuineness and empathy when exploring the issues while also building trust and establishing the relationship. In order to do this the counsellor must respond accurately. Observing and sensing what the speaker is feeling then reflecting and summarising back; in order to clarify understanding; but to also reassure the speaker they have the counsellor’s full attention.
Therapeutic alliance is a variable that needs to be effective in order to have a successful therapeutic outcome. Carl Rogers initiated the role purpose of the therapeutic alliance. Rogers (1965) identified empathy, genuinessness and unconditional positive regard as therapeutic tools during counselling sessions. In order to re-evaluate my skills, I performed a brief counselling session with my client, Mona. I found that using certain skills such as paraphrasing, reflecting feelings, summarising, challenging and asking open questions to explore options were required to form a therapeutic alliance between my client and me.
(This acknowledges to Jan that ken feels that her time is valuable), I would appreciate if we could talk about a problem that I am having. I believe that Shannon is upset with me, and does not want to speak to me. I was wondering if you told Shannon about Katie and me (trying not to be accusatory, so that Jan will not become defensive), 2. How do you perceive Jan’s effort to convince Ken to forgive her? Based on what you have learned in this chapter, suggest two ways she might more effectively seek Ken’s forgiveness.
The therapist needs an attitude of “I’ll accept you as you are.” The therapist must always maintain a positive attitude to the client at all times. Empathy: The ability to understand the other person at a deep level. It involves being able to put yourself in the other person’s position, and understanding them in their own terms, having the ability to understand sensitively and accurately but not
SFBT is an approach that focuses on how clients change, rather than one which focuses on diagnosing and treating problems. Here, we see the therapist as a collaborator and adviser who helps clients to achieve their goals. In SFBT, the therapist pretends to be out of knowledge so that the client can feel himself an expert. The SFBT therapist spends most of the session listening attentively for talk about previous solutions, exceptions, and goals. When these come out, the therapist punctuates them with enthusiasm and support (de Shazer, Dolan et al.
Rogers though that everyone holds a different concept of self, called the ‘ideal self’ this is how we would like to see ourselves, what we admire to be. For example some girls may see Cheryl Cole as an admirable figure and they would like to be her but when we sort through our differences, it can make us feel sad and angry. Rogers went on to create counseling called unconditional positive regard to help an individual seeking counseling to feel more positive about themselves. It’s counseling where the therapist should help the individual to feel better about them. Throughout this method of counseling, the service user begins to accept themselves for who they are and begin the gain a sense of worthiness.
Women tend to stay to themselves and handle the situation privately. Some may even not know that they are experiencing symptoms of postpartum depression. I know that for a while it took a long time, like other women, to notice that there was something wrong with the way that I was treating my spouse, friends, and strangers. Many women as myself wonder what are the symptoms that women feel when they are in depression. Studies show that women feel very sad, hopeless, and empty.
* Body Language: Developing encouraging body language (can take some practice) * Asking Questions: Asking questions - open and closed - is an important part in counselling skills. They can help a person open up. * Paraphrasing: Paraphrasing is when you, the listener, restate succinctly and tentatively what the speaker said - conveying empathy. * Summary: A summary, in counselling, is when you focus on the
I would describe Gates feeling towards his mother as compassionate. When Gates mother started going through the depression he was hurt as well. He felt “ powerless” because there was nothing he could do about his mothers situation. Due to his mothers sickness he began to withdraw from other kids and he felt devastated. He watched his mother change everyday and go through stages of her depression.
Rapport brings forth a sense of trust and understanding needed to help a client feel comfortable and maybe even optimistic enough to disclose personal issues/concerns. It is extremely important for a counselor to listen attentively and compassionately. This effective listening is demonstrated through a counselor’s eye contact, body language, non-intrusive questioning, paraphrasing and reflecting on what the client is saying/feeling, and reviewing/recapping the focus. It is also important for a counselor