Personal Reflection On The Self

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Personal Reflection on The Self Paper “At the center of our worlds, more pivotal for us than anything else, is ourselves” (Myers, 2010, p. 35). The way individuals feel towards their selves in a social world can be a life changing experience which inhibits many aspects of our normal personalities. The center of any individual’s world is the aspect of who we are as individuals. We know our memories, who we are, our feelings, and our gender; this factor is incorporated into our self in a social world. This particular aspect is called the spotlight effect, which is where “we tend to see ourselves at center stage, so we intuitively overestimate the extent to which others’ attention is aimed at us” (Myers, 2010, p. 36). The human intellect involves a strong concern for impressions on others, which at times can lead to assumptions that individuals are paying more attention to us than ourselves (Myers, 2010). Another aspect of self in a social world is the overwhelming aspect of believing that our emotions are obvious, so much more so than they are; this aspect is called the illusion of transparency (Myers, 2010). In my life the aspects of self-concept, self-esteem, and self-efficacy have played large roles in who I am as a person. Self-concept is based upon our individual self-schemas about whom we are in this world today and who we may become. As a teenager, I struggled internally throughout many years trying to figure out my own self-concept. I had come from an abusive family where the authoritarian parenting played a large role in my self-concept. I always doubted my abilities as a person, not quite understanding how I would overcome any obstacle and be a strong enough individual to figure out where I was going in life. While figuring out my self-concept, I addressed many aspect of the development of my social self. Things such as roles we play, the social
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