I had excepted defeat and was alright with it. I didn't really care because I knew that I had constructed it better than I would have if I didn't use the instructions. Although Morrie is extremely sick, he still excepts himself and his physical condition. Morrie sates that you should “accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do” (18). At the end of the book, all Morrie can do is talk.
However, what if I told you that instead of feelings of sympathy and pity, in reality, the reaction that most cancer patients want from you is understanding and acceptance. "Patients must feel secure and accepted, regardless of their condition, appearance mood or demands. They need to be reminded that even though they may look dramatically different, they are no less the person they were before the cancer". (Lang 267). However, for young cancer patients this may be even more difficult, most younger people don't accept the various changes and differences that cancer patients go though, they may even began to shun or make fun of the difference between themselves and the person with or living with/after cancer.
Perspective on power of force in ones life Perspective is an important power of force in life. If something happens in someone's life they will always have some kind of point of view on it whether it be negative, positive or neutral. In life, many obstacles occur especially negative things. If something where to happen, for example a death in your own family or a close friends that impacts you in a negative way. My mother passed away when I was young and I was impacted greatly by this and the people around me had felt sorry for me but their perspective on the situation was still the same, as if nothing even happened and go on with there lives normally.
Also when the partner made weak amends, self-concept clarity and self-respect went down over time as well, damaging mental health. (Luchie et al.) I have to agree with this experiment. I thought that it was a well thought out experiment and I can relate to it well. I like to pride myself by my ability to stay objective in arguments and take in different peoples perceptions, but once in a situation where I had forgave my partner, and my partner did not agree that she was in the wrong.
In order for life to have meaning it must come of course with good things, but also a responsibility to make things good to have free will to not hurt ourselves or other and to own up to the evil we create. Life needs to be valuable in order to appreciate it. And with so many evils God has presented to us every day it shows us how life can be ended quickly, or is a horrible experience and makes us strive to prevent these problems. Probably the greatest evil of them all is death. It does cause great grief to many when it comes too early but also death can cause the end of a bad thing.
Although all these wretched things are happening and will continue to happen, he still remains positive and grows happy over the littlest things. The extremely discomforting situations and events would make one depressed, angry, and very negative; but Olaudah proves in this story that with the right attitude anything is achievable. Even surviving life or death hardships. Some would say suicide is a cowardly way to go. I believe that if you're so terrible to a person to make them want to commit suicide then you are the coward.
Rogers’ theory discussed that a normal person should have congruency between self and experience. When a person does not have congruency between self and experience (a discrepancy), this induces defence mechanisms to deal with this anxiety. In this case, her self-image was very healthy; however the experience suggested she may die very soon from cancer. For a person who was usually unhealthy, perhaps a smoker, being diagnosed with lung cancer may not be as much of a shock and thus not cause
But there is a dark side to it that people often fail to see. And this dark side can actually leave them feeling worse about themselves; and failing to make sought-after changes in their lives. Kristin Neff, a renowned researcher on compassion, expressed the downsides of pursuing high self-esteem in her piece Self-Compassion: Moving beyond the pitfalls of a separate self-concept (2008). I'll summarize some of what she wrote while also sharing my own thoughts on this topic.When people succeed, their self-esteem is often elevated, and they feel good. At those times, all is well.
Believing in yourself with an optimistic outlook on the situation can help someone become less stress. If a cancer patient is fulfilling themselves with encouraging and empowering thoughts during such a critical time, it will resolve into a positive impact. Optimism may not cure their disease, but it will benefit their well being with coping and during the mental process of treatment. Researchers found that 3 months and 6 months after surgery, breast cancer patients who maintained an positive outlook, accepted the reality of the condition their health was in, and maintained a sense of humor, experienced less distress. In comparison, patients who were in denial, refused to accept the harsh reality of their disease, and contemplated on giving up, experienced higher levels of distress.
It has taken me a long time to figure out that you are the one who creates your own happiness and if you are always feeling sad and sorry for yourself of course it is not going to get better, you have to let yourself feel sad and sit in the sadness for a bit and then move on to greater, more important things. The things that i believe matter most are your health, (which people often take advantage of), family and doing things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. So many people in our society today are so materialistic that it’s almost laughable but really sad, i can’t say i am any better because i still love shopping and getting new things but people get so caught up in trying to get the newest, latest, greatest that they forget about the things that they really should be thankful for having like family. The only thing that has got me through all the awful days has been my family. No matter how awful i felt or how mad i was about my situation, my family went through it all with me.