Not Married but We Live Together

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September, 23 2013 Not married, but we live together Just like premarital sex cohabitation should be considered as a sin. In a piece entitled "The Downside of Cohabitating Before Marriage," psychologist Meg Jay of the University of Virginia describes what is known as the "cohabitation effect": "Couples who cohabit before marriage . . . tend to be less satisfied with their marriages-and more likely to divorce-than couples who do not." Cohabitation is an arguable topic in the US nowadays, and everyone has something different to say about it. In my opinion couples should cohabitate before marriage. It helps us know our mate better and prevents the couple from problems during the course of marriage. The author is primarily drawing attention to the underappreciated downside to cohabitation. In her article jay spotlight the of-cited argument that cohabitation is a casual arrangement that just happens. She also points out “couples who cohabit before marriage ( and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment ) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages – and more likely to divorce – than couples who do not. These negative outcomes are called the cohabitation effect.” Well how easy it is for her to assume that all cohabitation will lead to separation on even to divorce based on one patient. There is no link between cohabitation before marriage and how marriages do. Jay also talked “sliding, not deciding”. When she says “ moving from sleeping over to sleeping over a lot to cohabitation can be gradual slope, one not marked by rings or ceremonies or sometimes even a conversation. Couples bypass talking about why they want to live together and what it will mean”. This is not what most people do. I believe there as to be some kind of agreement, because I am very sure most of people
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