Now I spend my previous personal time to bonding, playing, attention giving to him, making sure that he has not only my love and worship, but all nessasary material things in life perior to me. I found my self caring about politics and laws that would affect my child some day . The only books I read were on child development and their nutrition. I felt the necessity of increasing my knowledge on nurturing my son. I even care much more about my self.
We may be going home from a bad day at work and stir that bad day in our house then it will prevent a big fight. As soon as I learned about this type of listening, then I discovered to myself this is the other reason of our fights because we don’t share together what happen at work. Sometimes I always try to hide it from my husband but I feel guilty about it because that is why I marry him is somebody to lean on for whatever happen. This works in any relationship and I know it will apply well for you guys and your future. Second, is active listening, to become an active listener you have to “respond to feelings, encourage the speaker to get in touch with his or her own thoughts and feelings by phrasing what was just said, ask questions and give your undivided attention.” (Roland, 2000) These are some steps that researcher recommend for active listener.
I strived to succeed, so when I didn’t do my best I would get very upset with myself and try harder until I was the best. I hate the feeling of failure especially when I knew that I had tried my very hardest. My parents always told me try your hardest or don’t try at all, so anytime I lost at something I felt like I was letting them down. Like I said before the best feeling in the world is when your parents show pride in you, well how awesome that feels is coinciding with how horrible it feels when they are upset with me. Through the years I have learned what I am good at and what I don’t excel in.
We have to work hard all day to make sure we keep things on track. Things used to be a lot easier to handle, but that was before our father got sick. I think he is having trouble getting better because he is still feeling sad about the death of my mother. My older brother is going to be getting married soon. Me and my other brothers like the woman he is going to marry, she is a pretty nice lady.
I had an answer, but I struggled terribly with putting it down on paper because I wanted this interview to “be perfect”. I was too worried about what I looked like or sounded like, so ultimately I had lost “my voice.” I went to my dad for more help. I had wasted a whole hour stressing over how to answer a few questions about myself. My dad told me something very important that day, he said, “The best way to impress someone is to be you”. After meditating on what he said to me I had at least something to put down.
A friend of mine reminds me of Tom because she always puts other things before her family. I can relate to Tom's character at the end of the story because I see the value in putting family first. In the beginning of the story, Tom is shown as a man who would rather work than spend quality time with his wife. “Got to get this done though” (111), is Tom’s response to his wife when she asks him to go to the movies with her. This shows how selfish Tom is because he decides to spend time working on research for a promotion rather than spending quality time with his wife.
Family Duty All mothers wish their children to have the best and they would do anything to support. Generally, it is mostly right try to save their children whatever it takes. However, is still justified even if mothers break the human rights of others to support their children? A novel, My Sister’s Keeper written by Jodi Picoult tackles controversial of the significance of lives. The mother of the Fitzgerald family, Sara, she and her husband Brian decided to create Anna, as a savior sibling for her older sister Kate who is suffering from leukemia.
Fixed/Growth Mindsets A situation where I have had a continued fixed mindset is my relationship with my father. I always thought that if I tried harder, was better, walked more the path he chose for me rather than my own that one day he would accept me and love me unconditionally. That he would try to forge some type of a relationship with me. My mother left when I was a teenager. I could have gone with her, but my father had all the power and money.
I have family members who are always saying negative things to me like- “It’s too expensive to attend college,” you’ll never find time,” it’s too late,” and etc. I have long separated from some of these family members because I needed boundaries and knew they were not part of my eventual goals for my life. I ultimately knew that if I didn’t separate, my dreams and a piece of myself would die. As a result, I make sure to concentrate my energy on various healthy challenges and this has helped me to forget about the negative words and impacts in my life. Thank God- that I have been able to succeed in most of my goals.
When growing up, we did not speak in a negative way regarding other cultures. So, when things were directed towards me regarding my interracial relationship, it hurt me deeply to think my family did not approve. I was also told by my parents that I would be disowned if I continued to date a white man and would be cut out of their lives. My sisters did not understand why I preferred to date a white man and thought I must be depressed. My sisters also thought I needed counseling and needed to meet men of my race.