Applied Learning Paper- A Personal Reflection on Marital Conflict Management
Trinity International University
PSY 220E, Professor Kingsley Grant
June 24, 2012
Carmen Maiocco, Psychology Cohort 30, Trinity International University Regional Center. Correspondence concerning this paper should be addressed to Carmen Maiocco at 6724 NW 188 Terrace, Hialeah, Florida 33015. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Conflict is inevitable. It can be good or bad. In fact it is quite normal. But when it degenerates it becomes a tool of destruction. Managing marital conflict is no different. With the proper attitude and tools practical steps can be applied in our conflict management in marriage.
A Description of My Marital Conflict
“Outside noisy, inside empty,” a Chinese proverb that best describes the conflict management style of my previous marriage. (Beebe, Beebe & Redmond, 2011) Let me describe the scenario. There would be a conflict, then a fight and a lot of talking at each other. He would digress into verbal abuse. I would retreat in shock and disbelief after responding with, “You will not talk to me this way! I am your wife!” Eventually, we divorced. Where did the disharmony come from? I can purport that the dysfunction came with a description of some of the issues in the following Scripture as follows:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow...