The mediator’s task is to transport them from their chaos to a higher level of function where they can begin to work together to create the best outcome possible to close their marriage with dignity and care. Rapport building or connecting with the soul of each client set the stage for mediation to occur. Mediators may have difficulty connecting with a client who is very guarded and refuses to trust anyone, much less a mediator. When a mediator achieves and maintains this connection, the husband and wife are more likely to be able to express themselves constructively. Once there is rapport between the mediator and each client, the clients begin to see each other differently because they have chosen to function at a higher level than the angry conflict of the
Whereas, the couples must love each other unconditionally and decide on choosing each other without the input of anyone else but themselves, it is assumed that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems. And of course they should be sexually faithful to each other.” (Coontz 381) In my opinion, I do not agree with Stephanie Coontz saying George Shaw theory of marriage has unrealistic expectations even though each culture has their own interpretation of marriage. No matter what each culture is different, if they believe that having more than one wife or having cospouses it is their choice and some will stay true to the values they were raised on. Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married.
The first goal was even though everyone lives separately they should all come together with love towards their religion, Secondly, the religion that everyone follows is more important than their individual lives, If the group is not good then everyone as individuals are not good. Thirdly, they are to improve their lives so that they will do more for God. They want themselves and their children saved from the corruption of the world, and to serve their God and work out their salvation. Fourthly, their plan will take unordinary ways to reach their goals. Everyone must actually practice what they learn from church everyday not just at church.
Many single parents are looking to have someone in their lives as a help-mate, protector, nurturer and provider to their family. In section one of the book, Ron Deal provides great insight and wisdom as to God’s divine plan for marriage, dating, remarriage and sex. He gives valuable information on when a relationship may be detrimental to the children, as well as, how it can be an endorsement to all involved. Also, he discusses the single parent’s readiness or non-readiness to begin to date again. In the book, Ron Deal makes a strong comparison of divorce and experiencing death noting that they both may take many years to overcome.
There is a strong emphasis put on keeping those in the fold of the Church and going out and recruiting the heathens who do not come to Church. Instead Billings has so graciously broaden the prospective to show the Church that the people who are not coming should still be a part of the Church community and their needs are just as important as those inside the Church. The greatest opportunities for the Church are when the ‘outsiders’ decide they have a reason to come and use the Church as a resource. They may need the Church for a baptism, a wedding, or a funeral; these opportunities are great to show that the Church bears life and is there to support them. The present society appears to have an identity predicament with the Church, because there is a tremendous amount of self-help propaganda in this society; therefore they simply do not care about a commitment with the Church, but can read about how to be better people in the comfort and safety of their own homes.
* Action If I was speaking with a friend, I would most definitely tell them to keep God at the forefront of their lives. I would proceed by asking them how things have worked out on their own without praying on their situation. Often times when we do things without asking for God’s help, we make a mess of things in my opinion. I would encourage them to seek God’s word for the bible has the answers to the problems that we face today. I believe that integrating theology and psychology into practice can be attained and can benefit the client greatly.
Considering other in the first place, providing service with one’s own willing, waiting the assignment from God, and having unique characteristics are the key to success. Humbleness is a huge challenge for the leaders in practice, as long as the new leaders are willing to lead like Jesus and be humble like him. Furthermore, “Humility begins when you have a true picture of yourself” (p. 41). Humility comes from self-awareness and assist the new leaders located the true standard for their life. Additionally, humble your heart is mean to accept varieties of opinions, even the ones do not agree with, however, at least let others to present their ideas.
But upon closer inspection and reflection into ones own family life, and the lives of those around them, Ehrenreicht's essay begins to make a lot more sense. It is because of my understanding of values within our culture and my own personal experience with my family that I believe Ehrenreicht's essay on family is completely true in the ideas that it
The Model of Christian Charity’s tone is more comforting and with great reason, Winthrop was trying to establish a loving comradely between the colonist. This is evident when he says that “all true Christians are of one body in Christ.” Then he compares each person to a body part and according to the sermon “The ligaments of this body are knit together by love. (Lauter 336) ” Winthrop realized that in order for the colony to succeed he had to have the colonist working as one unit especially considering the imminent dangers they were facing in the New World. He also tries to satisfy the individual by addressing the colonist concerns with wealth and social status. Winthrop assures his colonist that being rich, or poor is all part of God’s plan and everyone has a purpose in that plan.
Incorporating the two principles of rediscovering the value of one’s self and one’s spouse, and developing a sacred rhythm of devotion and honoring the Sabbath, will strengthen the individual and revitalize them. It will also strengthen the marriage relationship allowing it to become the fulfilling reciprocal example it was designed for. Between the two principles it will create a shining beacon to all of those around, drawing them in and providing opportunities to complete the original calling and mission, to create disciples for