Stimuli that is rewarding produces positive feelings in us, and stimuli that is punishing produces negative feelings. As some of the stimuli are other people it follows that some people make us happy, while others do not. According to the principles of operant conditioning, we are likely to repeat any behaviour that leads to a desirable outcome and avoid behaviour that leads to an undesirable outcome. This theory suggests that we enter into relationships because the presence of some individuals in directly associated with reinforcement – they produce a positive feeling for us – which makes them more attractive to us. As well as being attracted to someone who directly makes us happy, we also like people who we associate with a pleasant experience.
Book Report “How Do I Love Me” Helen M. Johnson Self-esteem what does it mean to you? Does it mean thinking highly of yourself and having a great attitude about youself and your life, or does it mean being perfect? Self-esteem is a reflection of one’s personal overall self judgment and one’s own self worth. Self esteem consists of your own beliefs about yourself, your emotions and behaviors also effect how you view yourself either positively or negatively. “How Do I Love Me” by Helen M. Johnson is basically a self help book to encourage people to improve their self esteem and how to maintain high self worth.
I make sure that I am clear on instructions, times, dates or location and if appropriate I like to have it written down. I aim to make positive and lively conversation to promote the interest in conversation. It is important to be confident as if you are nervous you can sometimes create barriers making communication difficult. Eye contact shows that you are listening and are interested in what the person has to say. I try to be polite and friendly in order to create trust, people feel that you are approachable and tend to communicate better when they trust you.
Let’s Understand Each Other Better The article "Sex, lies, and Conversation," written by the professor of linguistics Deborah Tannen, explains us about the many dissimilarities amongst men and women that occur in the way they communicate with each other. It explains to the reader why there is a lack of communication and understanding between a man and a woman who aim to pursue different objectives through conversations. The article is a very effective passage that provides logical reasoning to support its claim of developing cross cultural understanding in order to avoid the clash of genders that is caused by failed conversations. Most of the women complain that men are not good conversational partners at home. According to the females, men do not listen or talk to them and do not contribute in day to day discussions.
Freddie Ramos We can all agree that friends make our lives better. They encourage us when we’re feeling down and make us laugh. Friends make us feel good, almost anyone would agree. But the article by Tara Parker-Pope, “What Are Friends For?” goes beyond this simple point. The article presents ample evidence that having friends not only makes us happier, it also makes us healthier, both mentally and physically.
In an article Clay Tucker says " We all have difficult people we need to deal with. Become their friend, learn about what they've been through: (psychcentral.com). Be willing to get to know everyone. Learn to accept others differences and love them even more for their flaws. "The best kind of popular people are the ones that have been through a lot knowing how to accept others that have dealt with hard things too" (G.W.).
There you will also be given the’ code’ you need to break your current behaviour pattern and replace it with one that is more desirable. I personally prefer a more authoritarian style of induction. I surprise myself in this because i generally don’t respond that well to authority; however i really struggle to take myself to my own special place. When i am in conversation with friends or family or i am reminiscing over memories past i can take myself to that place within seconds or if someone asks me to imagine the word happy for example, similarly i can picture a time of smiling or laughter normally with the people i love. Since my last session with the my tutor i have tried desperately to envision my special place, but have truly found it so much easier to be taken somewhere, here i can place the items, sights, smells, people or even noises that i want there with me and i fell comfortable and safe.
Final Paper: Letter of Advice Lawrence Hawkins COM 200 – Interpersonal Communication Inst. Angela Gillette April 23, 2012 Dear, David and Cierra; My advice to you for a healthy and successful relationship is rather lengthy and takes time to perfect, or even get good at. As you know, interpersonal communication, when used correctly, can decrease minor and major conflicts, and increase the happiness and satisfaction in relationships. As well, since we are born communicating, it is only right that we are able to do so without constraint. This letter is to explain, what I believe are, ways to effectively use interpersonal communication in your relationship.
Communication is how we connect, learn, and grown as individuals. Developing an intimate relationship is built off the type of language we use and how well we relate. According to Bower, “Conversational partners relate to the use of function words.” There must be an understanding and mutual interest in order to maintain a stable and romantic relationship. In completing the Language Style Matching website, I found it insignificant to accurately give a sense of familiarity by the use of instant messages between two people. “There are different types of language and functions of language, states Sole.” With the website not being familiar with the different ebonics, slang, and pneumonic used to communicate, it was difficult to give an accurate account regarding the conversation.
Article Critique: Talking Styles Anecia Hills Com 200 Interpersonal Communication Prof. Kristy Nelson February 13, 2012 Article Critique: Talking Styles Forming an opinion from Bruce Bower’s article “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance,” it makes sense that people who “click” conversationally would have a better chance at a lasting relationship. The author has supported most of his ideas with a study led by Molly Ireland and James Pennebaker of the University of Texas at Austin. Bower suggests that similarity in the usage of functions words such as pronouns, articles, conjunctions, prepositions and negations are representative of how drawn individuals are to each other (Bower, 2010). The studies shown from the article listed above and the scores I received from the “Language Style Matching” website concede in making this article relevant to my own opinions on whether or not it is supposed matching talking styles that ignite long-lasting interactions between two people. As a result of the way you choose and arrange your words and sentences, style is formed.