I. Many parents, who use corporal punishment for discipline, do not understand that they are abusing their child.
A. According to Javed Kashni’s 1998 book Raising Happy Children, he states “A child who is spanked learns to fear their parent.”
B. While spanking a child it is very easy for a parent to lose their temper as they become upset with the situation and transfer that anger to the child.
i. If you have lost your temper then you will repeatedly strike the child which is causing pain; discipline is not to cause pain.
ii. Nanny Deb from the hit show Nanny 911, says that #8 of her 30day challenge is “Mommy & Daddy Time Out”
C. “Physical punishment gives the dangerous and unfair message that "might makes right", that it is permissible to hurt someone else, provided they are smaller and less powerful than you are.” As found in Alice Miller's 1997 book Breaking Down the Wall of Silence.
II. Laws approve spanking to be done with an open hand on the child’s buttocks or hand and not in excess or with a force that causes any damage to the skin.
A. Even without sexual motives on the part of the punisher, spanking can interfere with a child’s normal sexual & psychological development” as found on www.nospank.net last undated August 2002.
B. Many adults use a variety of items to “spank” children
iv. Closed fist
III. According to ChildHelp which is a leading national non-profit organization dedicated to helping victims of child abuse and neglect, 17.4% of abuse on children is physical.
A. 14% of men and 31% of women in prison in the USA were abused as children.
B. Nearly two-thirds of the people in treatment for drug abuse reported being abused as children.
C. The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2007 is $104 billion.
IV. There are many age appropriate healthy alternative discipline methods that do not include spanking.
A. Time outs are a...