Anne Tyler’s story, “Teenage Wasteland”, focuses on the complex relationships between parents and their adolescent children. Donny is going through a confusing time – his adolescent phrase, which is the most difficult time for both parents and children. Instead of taking responsibility for their child, Donny’s parents followed the school principal’s advice and hired the professional tutor, Cal, who carelessly took the parenting burden on himself. Donny’s mother, Daisy, had difficulty understanding what Donny’s problem was, whereas Danny felt pressure from his parents, teachers, and peers. Donny’s mother lacked self- confidence and cared more about what other people thought about her as a parent.
Kids without parents suffer the most, there is no mutual agreement for what's best for the child. The mother would like to have things her way and the father his. They can't combine the sight of each other, even if it means sake of their child. This makes very hard for the child and for the school and for other facilities that has to accommodate for both parents separately. For example “in parent teacher conferences there are two copies of report cards, two of everything because the parents can't agree to share.” This is very sad.
Parents are often show frustration at not being there and being able to help their children in addition to not getting to see them as much as the teachers do. Parents may be reluctant to express their concerns because of cultural beliefs related to the authoritative position of the teacher. Parents may also be unsure of how to express their concerns to the teachers. Research shows that parents provide a passionate feeling that is highly personalized and comes with a history and a future. During a power struggle between a parent and a child, you will see emotions seldom seen by two people.
As a child (and even now when Allison is a teenager,) Allison feels alone and isolated in a hostile environment because her parents and (and even her peers,) are not caring towards her, hence the reason why she is so reserved and sensitive. Horney also theorized that there are ways that humans search for security in life, and one of them is moving towards people. It is evident that Allison does this because she does attention-seeking actions such as pouring the all the contents from her purse, squealing and banging her head against the table. This is to seek affection and recognition from others to build meaningful, and useful relationships so that she does not feel helpless or
At home, he lived in fear of his mother and resented his father for not helping him. His siblings, at the insistence of his mother, often joined in abusing him. Dave Pelzer had every reason to develop into a product of nurture. After entering the foster care program, Dave Pelzer did not know how to behave in society. He defied his foster parents rules and go in trouble at school.
The parents usually do not socialize with other parents because they usually receive negative comments towards their child. Parents who anti-socialize usually channel that aggression to their spouse which results in violent arguments. Schools as well as teachers are also responsible on placing kids with ADHD in an environment where they can perform their best. This is not to segregate the children but to place them in an environment where they can learn their best. Also, if the child does not perform at his/her best, it greatly reduces the self-esteem not only of the child but the parents as well.
More and more parents are letting go of their stern parenting not even giving their kids a small "spank" on the bottom which is NOT child abuse. They are afraid to do that these days because of these psycho moms and dads who call the DCFS and the police if they see or hear of you spanking your child. Children test their boundaries. Back in the day our parents used to REALLY SPANK us if we did something wrong and I bet we never did that thing again. These days the kids get time outs and the parents try talking to them as if they were mini adults and can understand and grasp exactly the point you are trying to get across to them.
He gets filled with anger when he is told, “No.” His mother corrects him throughout the day because she notices that he is developing unhealthy behaviors, like hitting other children that he feels he is superior towards. According to (Gottlieb, 2002) who does not treat the little boy, “This is a distinct psychological problem in children which is separate from diagnoses such as attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, bipolar disorder, and
Rose’s teachers were a nightmare; from an abusive homeroom teacher “he would lose control and shake or smack us†to an English professor who had little training in the subject. In Angelou’s essay, the problem is with the injustice of the system, there was no support from the government, but they had support from the community, unlike Rose. Rose was a mediocre student at best “I developed further into a mediocre student and a somnambulant problem solver, and that affected the subjects I did have the wherewithal to handle†he just did things to get by; there was no real connection with his studies. Angelou was an honors student, her “academic work was among the best of the year,†marked differences that only point to a system that does not recognize greatness, in Angelou because of the color of her skin, in Rose because of an administrative error; a confusion with another Rose; a placement test that categorized him as
Biff and Willy often find it very challenging to get along, and most of the time we see Linda trying to resolve their differences. Although while Linda is only trying to do good amongst her family by nurturing them with her advice, they usually do not take on board what she has said, and rather just ignore her completely. A feminist could argue that to Biff and Willy, they think that they’re putting her ‘in her place’. A place where perhaps her opinion does not matter. Linda occasionally argues her point across until she is yelling at members of the family and this may be because she is frustrated because she is never heard when she tries to give her opinion.